Early 30s and I’ve never been in a relationship. All my friends are married with babies. I’ve tried the dating apps, but nothing seems to work. I’m so lonely and feel like a loser who has lost the race. I think I’ll die alone.

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Mid 20s and same. Not that that helps but... solidarity?

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Early 30s is not old, you are not a loser, and there is no race! It’s better to take your time to find the right person. I know it can be lonely. But I was in such a rush to not be lonely anymore I got married at 18 to an emotionally abusive person and am heading for divorce and possibly bankruptcy now in my late 20s. I lost all my friends. I expect I’ll still be unmarried with no kids in my early 30s but I’m actually kind of looking forward to it. I had one bad relationship after another and wish I had stayed single. Just a different perspective.

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Have you tried getting absolutely shredded? I’m not joking.

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Early 40’s here and in the same position. Focused on my career to avoid the pain. Business cycles at the firm has only made that decision worse. Taking life one day at a time. Also avoiding the temptation of comparing myself to my friends and colleagues.

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Same here :(

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Fellow moms, I need advice. My daughter is in second grade and she is not meeting her targets for math. Or as they used to say when I was 7, she failed a test. I’m a little concerned because I can’t teach her. Anyway, I want to enroll her in some kind of math tutoring. Any thoughts on a tutoring service? Please, no criticism on whether a 7 year old needs math tutoring. She told me she hates math- which she is totally picking up from other girls, I’m sure because we are a math positive home.

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How to date while living at home with your parents?? Feels so awkward 😬

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Went out of a case interview one hour ago. Just checked LinkedIn, and the company just posted the reposted the position I am interviewing 35 minutes ago.

I am feeling like shit

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Did a fair bit of copywriting before I became an AM to get my feet wet in the ad industry. Has anyone here made the switch from account service to copywriting? Continued in comments—

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So I just recently accepted an offer, I’m slated to start 03/21. I signed up for DLaunch in person and just want to know if it’ll be in my local office or if I have to fly out? Which locations are offering DLaunch?
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I may be a giant asshole for this, but I sometimes don’t have the patience to deal with my SO’s mom..simply because she has the risk tolerance of a groundhog…she is scared of absolutely everything, and sometimes judges me for my opinions on things..not outwardly but like..subtly..and I’m not by any means someone that adventurous…it really doesn’t have any impact on our lives because we can just turn around and do what we want anyways but like..ughhh

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Any parents here? How did you originally explain the Covid pandemic to your children?

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Can someone refer me for Work From Home opportunities, currently working in R2R and have 4+ years of experience in it.

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I just wanna say that my head feels better since I take lion's mane extract. I stopped zoning out, I have less narrations in my head simultaneously. I can actually do tasks on almost time. If someone wants to try, it's mandatory to take vitamin c with it. It's a life changer for me. I wanted to share it.

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Hallo Berater in Deutschland

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For anyone who owns two or more watches - how much do you wear each? Several months back I bought a second watch and have not worn the first since. Out of habit I just wear the same watch every day. I still like the first watch and don’t want to sell but also realize it’s smarter to sell if I don’t wear it. Anyone struggle with this and have tips on how to get into the habit of rotating?

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I have a question for my fellow PI paralegals in Texas. TPCIGA requires that we submit all medical bills through the clients insurance before proceeding further. The client in question has Aetna. I sent the bills with a cover letter to Aetna via certified mail. I am having so much trouble getting a status on said claim. Does anyone here have experience with that and can assist me? Any help or guidance is appreciated.

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Has anyone taken a leave of absence for mental health/suicide/depression? I’m getting there but I’m also the primary earner in my house.

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How do you deal with the stress of demanding clients, bosses, etc? I’m on a small team in a stretch role where I get multiple urgent asks from my Partner and clients each day, and never quite feel like I know what I’m doing. I know this is part of the learning process, but I get anxious hearing an outlook notification, and am constantly stressed that I’m not doing a good job

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Today is my first birthday since my dad passed away last year, and I am also in the midst a divorce. Just feeling really low today. 🙁

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I was emotionally unfaithful to my SO. SO found out and sometimes brings it up when we get into arguments. When they do, I get really anxious and I want to self harm. I don’t know how to deal with it. It’s so paralyzing.

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Tell me your why you are depressed, describe the pain and what you do to manage it ?

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Is it normal for my psychiatrist to ask to schedule an appointment to lower the dose of my Ritalin XR prescription?

I’ve been on the same dose the past few months but recently it’s been causing a pretty bad crash for me so I wanted to lower it. Why the hell do I need to pay $60 for 10m of her time to prescribe me a lower dose of the same meds?

I’m wondering if I’m overreacting, or she’s purposefully trying to just get paid more

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My therapist just said he could no longer help me because I went back on social media to see what my ex has been up to when I said I wouldn’t. I don’t know why this is so wrong. I’m sorry that it’s taking me longer to heal and I’m not ready to let go.

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I just have to say that signing up for therapy (and finding my current therapist) was one of the best decisions I made in my life. I’m learning a lot about myself and how to live a happier life. I wish people could learn about these things without therapy. And I wish more people would be able to take advantage of counseling.

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I find myself crying in therapy every week. That can’t be normal / ok. I don’t want to cry every week but I do find it helpful to talk through things.

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Facilitated a workshop today, neither died nor felt like I was going to die of anxiety. First time for me 😊

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Any book recommendations that have helped you control your anxiety or panic attacks? Surfing the web and can’t find a consistent one that’s “the best”

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I'm doing everything in my power to not quit without another job lined up, and every interview falls through. I'm overwhelmed by my clients, I've had enough corporate koolaid for a lifetime, I could not care less about what I do, and I've started exhibiting destructive behaviors at work but keep getting told I'm doing great.

If I'm going to be stuck here, clearly my attitude is the main problem. How have you learned to find joy in your job? What makes you feel like you matter here? Why stay?

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I’m having trouble staying on top of things that I know are important. I just don’t care most of them time and the. Maybe once a month I get all concerned and make a list then I only do a couple things on it until going into the funk again.

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It’s been a tough week. Thinking back, I cried once on most of my past few cases. This week, it’s been every day. How do you not let it affect you? Get good reviews but maybe I’m not cut out for this.

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I wish I had someone to hug me

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I have been feeling so unmotivated, unengaged and just plan tired with everything lately and don’t know why

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With a couple of breakups I’ve been in complete shock and cry a lot. Don’t know what happened and I with a few online rejections I feel complete lack of confidence. Now when it comes to work...

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I’m really good at the work I do, but really bad at selling myself and always look like I do less than those who talk better even when I put in more hours. It sucks

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Girlfriend is supposed to meet my parents this week for thanksgiving. But today she’s been going through such bad depression, she mentioned “not wanting to be here” over the phone multiple times. She’s been struggling lately. Is it okay for me to say that I don’t want her to meet them unless she’s feeling better. I told her It’s too heavy when she says stuff like that to me and I want to help. Idk what to say to her.

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I’m really struggling mentally. The understanding of how insanely busy and overwhelming it will be because of this COVID-19 crap is giving me severe anxiety and panic attacks. I want to leave so badly but no one is hiring right now. I don’t know what to do. I feel trapped with no way out.

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