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Ello! Guys i want my new ultraconservative muslim coworker to get that im gay… but he’s so naive (blind) and really loud and im pretty sure he would scream 🤣 all my team knows about me even about my bf… any tips? Ps i dont want to come out, is not fair since I’ve never been in the closet so i think I shouldn’t have to 🤨

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Mention it casually in conversation. He may even surprise you and turn out not to be close minded. But if he is (really hoping he's not), that's a him problem.

(P.s. I'm Muslim & gay so we exist as well)

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You’re open. Why do you have to push it? It sounds like you’re mostly after a reaction/drama.

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Start speaking with a light lisp and wear a SF clone outfit on conference calls. He will get that clue. LOL
Just kidding…
Why do you care if he knows or not? Just let it be, he will eventually come around and will figure out, just be yourself.

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Ask for help from a team member or wear the rainbow flag to work tomorrow? 🏳️‍🌈

He might be gay for all you know.

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If he is really loud and you’re scared of drawing attention, mention it in a casual conversation that you’re having on the side in passing, maybe about your bf.

In general, I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt in the workplace environment, especially in consulting.

To add to SM1 above, Islam is one of the most peaceful and accepting religions at its core, despite western perceptions, so don’t let his religion hold you back!

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Don’t judge him if you don’t want him to judge you. Unless he’s made homophobic remarks just act as you normally would

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He has tho

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Thank you guys! I think im being silly about this… also a prejudice guy. Sorry :(

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I think you should just keep living your life. You don’t need his validation. He will realize when he needs to and it’s not on you to bring him along.

Him making homophobic comments sounds like an issue for HR? 🤷🏾‍♂️ your call obvi

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