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Etiquette question: should I pick up the tab when meeting someone for an informational chat over happy hour drinks/food?

The person is my former professor who works in my desired exit company now.

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Did you set up the dinner / chat? If yes, I almost always err on the side of thanking person X for taking the time out of their schedule to chat with you and picking up the tab as a thank you. Just rules to live by for me vs hard and fast rule. Few $’s make a much clearer statement then leaving an awkward end to dinner to chance

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I've met with a handful of experienced hires interested in coming to PwC or consulting over the years - and yes I think there's a difference etiquette between students vs. those with paychecks.

The ones who didn't offer to pay always stuck out to me in a negative way as I feared how they would handle client interactions given their apparent lack of common sense - they did a great job taking a risk in asking for help, but then after I took my time to meet them somewhere, they peppered me with questions and for my life story, advice on resumes, introductions and referrals, which I'm generally happy to give, but then they didn't even offer to pay for my coffee or entree? Just left a bad taste in my mouth

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That last sentence should remove all doubt for you.

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*vast majority

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At least offer

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You asked for their time and assistance, right?? And maybe more help after the lunch???


What answer beside "yes!" makes any sense?

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Yes, I think you should at least offer (with serious intent) and if they decline, don't make a big deal about it.

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Yes

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Yes

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Yes plan to pay. If they are obviously more senior/wealthier and they counter offer, graciously thank them and let them

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Can't believe this is even a question

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Always offer to pay. Basically paying for advice/ connection. If they are a mentor type figure they’ll usually understand they are further along in their career and pick it up. My typical rule is that if I set it up, i pay

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“Oh...did you wanna split this?”

Say that a few times in your head and let us know how it sounds...

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I would be more offended with the offer to split than the student not saying anything at all.

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Before asking for the check, say, “I really appreciate you taking the time; would love it if you just let me pick up the tab” or something like that. You don’t want to come off pretentious, but it’s probably not a big deal and a good opportunity to come off appreciative

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Thank you all!

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If you had to ask this you know the answer already. Spend the $10 for their time. It’s worth it and they’ll remember having to pay for their own coffee over the convo

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Etiquette- you invited so recommend pay. You can set boundaries on wine if that becomes a thing

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I have had juniors from high school interested in consulting reach out to me for coffee chats but I have always paid for them because they are college kids and I make 150+ so it would look real bad if I had them pay for coffee but they always offered

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Ha. People who went to the same high school as I did but graduated way after me (hence “juniors”) but were now studying in college ( generally a mix of rising juniors and seniors) in the same city as me (NYC).

I think there is a lost art of etiquette in business. Onboarding does not teach this and some folks have not been brought up with those experiences. Its not bad its just not taught widely. To the extent of table manners too. Just the little things. Fun are receptive to the feedback.

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For sure!! At least offer I’m sure he would pick it up anyway :)

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Yes

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It’s always a good idea to pick up the tab. The generosity will come back to you tenfold

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