Ever since baby two, I feel like I don’t perform well at work anymore- I navigate and have received great reviews, but just don’t feel like I have the mindset to dig into engagements so am getting by.

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It’s just so hard, feels nice to hear other moms feel this exhaustion too - I feel like dropping all my “credentials” and doing an “easy” job, to make some money, keep some professionalism alive in me, until I feel less tired and can give more at work. I think I’m tapped out, but I feel such a burden/ expectation for me to achieve more from myself and others, only because we all know I can. But is it terrible that I just want to have a break?

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I can’t seem to get myself to dedicate hours at work and hours learning new skills - and then go home and take care of my family - worries I’ll get exposed and worried about the fallout.

Same...how old are yours? I am hoping that as they get older I can get back more to myself. I am f'in exhausted

Mine are 5 and 2... I think it’s getting more exhausting as they are getting older...

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Same here. 8 and 2. Older kids wants more of me now since she has started to explore the world around her. Infact I am loosing control over myself at times due to exhaustion and too many expectations. I got stressed out at workplace last week for athing and couldn't stop venting out in front of my team. Oh my!!

I actually thought the same thing after my first, but found that there was a perception I was doing better. Because I don’t have time for things like I used to, I’m wait more efficient and productive with my time because I just want to GTFO. Maybe do a quick sanity check on self vs external perception with those you trust?

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