Everything I do in my relationship is turned against me, I feel like I’m in quicksand. I literally can’t do anything right in my SO’s eyes. How do I even bring this up?

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Maybe go to a good marriage workshop where they talk about the 4 horsemen of the apocalypse in marriage?

- stone walling
- criticism
- defensiveness
- contempt

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Have you tried couples counseling?

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Are you dating or married? If you aren’t married, honestly just break up. Your partner should make you feel like the most special guy/girl in the world. If they don’t do that, then what’s even the point of being together? They sound super toxic.

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I mean what I'd you actually are doing everything wrong?

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As a happy career-oriented single man. When I'm just focused on improving my career, thinking about work, just doing my thing. I notice women find me attractive, they're nice to me, want me to talk a little bit, and get annoyed or sad when I'm short with them. So I generally feel attractive.

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