Ex bf begging to get back together. Feel like I've outgrown him, but I also complain about being single. Feel like I'd be settling. I make 2x him $$$. Just not feeling it romantically...? 🤔

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Then why would you? Go find another fish

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Why is it relevant how much more you make than him? I guess a guy who makes more than you is also settling?

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A financial wage gap is an ego thing. If you love each other, you share as one. It doesn't sound like you two would make it. Move on.

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OP: there is a strong reason why they became ur ex. Remind yourself one more time n move on. My two cents: Dont test the guy who u already tested.
Money is irrelevant when there is love.

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You sound lime you made up your mind. Ignore him.

Besides, if you aren't 100% in, the money issue would cause problems for sure and it would end ugly.

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Don't do it. Move on

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I'm a lady and make 30k more than my husband. Still love him to pieces. Emotions are key here.

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You know the answer: No.
Money should never be an issue. If you think that you make more money than he does that's your hint to drop that relationship idea. In a couple, of one can afford something, the other should too, even if it's with your money.
My husband makes more and it used to bother me until he told me: it's our salary, our family. As long as we both work hard, the rest are details.
You'll know when you find the right guy.

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^True. I seem to be thinking about this more factually than emotionally. And I am not emotionally engaged with him at all like I was before. Cried over it, got over it, and haven't felt the same since

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It's okay to be single than to settle. Don't use money as the reason. He's not as adventurous as you, with or without money. My ex made 2x my salary and wasn't really down for new experiences outside his comfort zone. You do you, and you'll find someone when the time is right. Also, block him!!

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You've already answered it.

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If you do pass, let him down gently with closure.

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Can I have him OP? Single ready to mingle.

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That's why I haven't. He comes around every 3-4 months like begging. He would give me the husband/family life I've always wanted, but he's also very "small town", whereas I've become a travel lover. Just feel like things are different. Also getting my family's pressure of why I'm still single...

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Yea don't do it obviously. Everyone has someone who pursues them, but remember they pursue you because they are lonely, need someone, think you are gonna fix there problems, all bs

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Don't ever settle.

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Let me ask a question.. aside from finances, is there any other reason you would not go back to him?

If it is the only reason, then you might be better off being single for a bit. I am not saying that finances are not important ñ, they are, but money comes and goes. What you want is someone who will be with you in good and bad. "Ride or die" as they say.

It sounds more like you want a travel buddy than a SO.

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Sometimes people are worth second chances, but it sounds like in your case, sometimes they're not.

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^want a firefighter? He's small-town minded and very regimented (set in his ways), which means he isn't down to try new things. VERY to the T with his life. As. Is. Huge reason why I'm not interested to go back to him. I agree that $$$$ comes and goes..but he's honestly boring AF..I see myself getting very bored very quickly. I told him this, and he said he would be "willing to travel"..but i don't know. I just know how he is. I can't see him actually doing it

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Hit it and quit it.

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