ex friend has been rubbing people the wrong way in the office. She keeps asking me why we don’t talk anymore and I keep trying to be as cordial as possible but she keeps asking. Advice?

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Post about it on fishbowl and hope she reads it and gets the point

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Tell her to stop rubbing people...

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Schedule dinner. Cancel. Repeat.

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Tell her that her feet smell

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Keep it generic. I don't think we share the same interests as we did before, something like that and then ghost the hell out of her.

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Do the usual “Sorry been busy, got personal shit going on”

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Friends help friends be the best version of themselves. Give her some feedback/ suggestions to help her improve

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I won’t tell her because she’s the type to twist whatever I say to HR

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Following. I love terrible coworker stories.

Please don’t disappoint, OP.

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Teach her how to rub with the grain instead of rubbing against the grain 😂

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Tell her - what are you afraid of?

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Same situation currently at PDubs.... ghosting and saying nothing... oh super busy! Sorry!

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When I started reading I thought it was a #metoo post...

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Need to know the real reason you’re avoiding her. Sounds like you’ll have to do some dams he control. I would be very careful as to how you handle this

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Use the classic ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ line!! Always works!!

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Is it me OP?

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D4: I don’t want to be her friend anymore. She does too many career limiting moves. Sounds harsh but I’ve worked too hard to be where I’m at

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So what happened? If you want advice be more specific

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