Ex is trying to connect stating he wanted to stay in touch and talk. He feels alone. I don’t know what to do. I am not really comfortable knowing he is very selfish, never really talks openly & nvr available when I needed him emotionally. Any suggestions if I should or not? We both are in different countries now.

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You shouldn't. Let him sink or float on his own.

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It feels like you broke up with him so you wouldn’t have to real with this. If it were me I wouldn’t be able to reconnect without developing feeling and it seems like he might hurt them. For that reason, I’m out.

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Ok Babs Corcoran lol

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You are not responsible for his feelings. If he wants to talk but you don’t want, then just don’t. You also don’t owe him any explanation for not wanting to.

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OP: don’t set yourself on fire to save someone else.

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I agree with SC1. It sounds like your ex stirs up pretty strong (negative) feelings. You should either not engage or just explain to that you aren’t in a place right now to start that type of relationship with your ex.

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Do we still believe in second and third chances ?

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Only when you yourself has been taken care of can you then begin to forgive others.

It really scares me to reconnect as I am still getting over the past memories.

Thank you everyone for the your response

Yeah, I don’t think you’re emotionally ready to start talking to him again. What good will that do? Nothing, especially when you know he is selfish. Sounds like a lose-lose situation for you my friend.

Of course he is lonely. He probably spent months at home like millions of people around the world. He wants you to entertain him until he can find another guy. He will probably drop you as soon as he gets his fill of your time and energy, or he finds someone else.

Say no.

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