F here, had a great first date yesterday and I noticed how at some point I was just consumed by the thought that this will not go far just like before🥺. How do I get past this mindset/ fear?

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Just relax and go with the flow. Don’t set expectations yet

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Try to experience in the moment and not place yourself in hypothetical scenarios down the road. Feel it out and enjoy the ride

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Read attached, you’re attachment style is likely anxious.
Get a therapist to work through this. Who you are doesn’t change overnight or may never change. But good help will teach you to deal with this in a positive and effective way.

Also remember, you’re not alone in this.

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Therapy might help

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