Feel like i’m hitting depression. Moved to the US 3 yrs ago, broke up after toxic/bpd relationship, went through covid alone in march 2020, went through tough time at work/toxic project, got a new job, had visa issues, started new job and found out everyone is burnt out/role was oversold (i took a paycut), jumped/attacked on subway by 7 teenagers, company went through name change, 2 reorgs, and my equity is down 45%. It’s tough keeping up with life and feel beaten. All of this in 2-3 years.

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If not done already, I really, really suggest you start looking for your personal psychiatrist. Mental health isn't something you can "toughen up" on. It's the same as breaking a bone. You need treatments.

Also this may sound cheesy but this is temporary. Picture yourself 10 years ago - I bet your life was vastly different from the life now. Focus on things that you can do to improve your life 5,10 years later. It can start with simple things like eating healthy and working out, or learn something you always wanted to. I personally plan to learn boxing!

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You don’t have to be new to the US to face all of this (minus the Visa). Hang your head up and know that immigrants find far more success than natives or 2nd/3rd generation folks in America.

Start turning things around today!

What is the part about teenagers?! Are you in nyc? Did you report it as a hate crime

Sorry this happened man….hood got it. Not sure why in this specific case we always have to describe by clothing or location cause it would be terrible racism otherwise

I’m so sorry you had to go through all of this. So many stressful events in such a short period of time. Moving to a new country is difficult enough - everything else stacked on top just multiplies everything. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from someone who is trained to listen. A lot of us can relate to certain aspects of your story, maybe some of us can relate to all of it. Hang in there and we’re rooting for you.

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