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Feel like I’m often fetishized for my Asian-ness at work sometimes. I find it’s usually men at my level or senior who ask a lot of questions about my Asian background, where I grew up, and bring up how much they like “xyz Asian topic.” Anyone else?

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Are you female? I’m based in a region with few Asians and get those questions a lot as well. I didn’t find it coming mainly from men tbh more 50:50z You learn to distinguish genuine interests from fetishzation pretty quickly

My take is it’s mostly genuine interests to learn about other cultures - don’t jump to conclusions! Offer your responses in a thoughtful way and see how they respond and decide after. Would love to make them understand us better and raise more awareness

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Cool me too! I just find info heavy conversations to be a good way to judge. It’s most likely not fetishes but their attempt to build connections with subordinates.

Management level is pretty white and they don’t know how to connect with immigrant employees. Asking about their background is the easiest

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Hate to say it but I don’t think males get asked these things.

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*As a male

Why do you feel like they're fetishizng you?

Yea I am an Asian male and I found that men tend to put me in a box more than females. I dread male managers and interviewers especially... Men are more competitive so maybe putting you in a box helps them separate themselves from you? Imo, black and white people are guilty of this thinking, but white people does have a greater degree of unconscious bias.

Not all questions are fetishizing, but you definitely get more fetishized than your white, black or brown colleagues

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