Feel so trapped today - made some choices in life that are coming back to bite me.
I can't get out of this marriage - my spouse keeps delaying the actual divorce process while giving me grief of all kinds. Its like he's trying very hard to get my mind to tell me I'm a horrible person that doesn't deserve to live and sometimes I fall for it. Today was one of those days but I powered through it. I don't know if there's light at end of this tunnel but I'm not ready to give up yet.

I went grocery shopping today and as restrictions are being relaxed... I remembered how much I hate being around other people. I think I need to move...

need some advice! so my fiancé and I asked his sister to be in our wedding party so we wouldn’t cause any rifts. She is older and still not married (which is completely fine!). However she is getting jealous and starting to ruin our wedding planning experience. We can’t uninvite her now but I don’t know how to handle her. I’m really close with all my other bridesmaids and I thought it would be easier to just keep her out of the loop until the time comes for the wedding and Bach?

How do people make friends in Boston? I haven’t made friends here since college... not sure if I should be trying to expand my network.

Anyone have a spouse who isn't in their field and feel like it would be more interesting if both of you were in the same line of work?

I don't know if this is a symptom of quarantining but I'm just bored by the day to day banter we share about our kids and family. There's no thought provoking conversation that happens and any initiation from my side just gets dismissed. We enjoyed watching TV together but I haven't had time to do that for the last few months.

Heading into the EY office in Boston tomorrow, have been working out of a 2 bed room 1,200 SqFt apartment with a son (now 3.5 years old) for the last year and a half. Can’t wait!

How to still feel confident when siblings or cousins significant others are richer and make more money then you? Or what if they are better looking then your significant other?

My gf and I are having a big discussion and I would love to get your thoughts on this. It’s about how much we keep in touch and communicate when I’m on the road. She needs to hear from me everyday multiple times and if I don’t answer her texts within a few hours, she can get quite controlling (text over and over again, also on my work phone, asks what I am doing and gets upset). I am not used to that and have the trust if she doesn’t text back, that it’s for good reasons, busy at work…. (Ctd)

Hi all, I’m thinking of moving out of my parents home to another state for my peace of mind bc of some marital issues going on between them. Is this a wrong idea? Im also worried for my mom who has health issues and that would be the only reason I continue to stay.

I went home for the first time in years for a high school friend’s wedding. It was weird getting back together with old friends. Most of them were in the same spot as when I left seven years ago. Cont

I am long distance with my boyfriend and am feeling really unsettled about our relationship. We’ve been together 9 months, and long distance for 4/ 9. I love him and am lonely while distanced, but super happy with our relationship. I’m unsettled about the future and if we will be happy together in the future. I do not want to move to where he is located and he does not want to move here. He definitely wants kids, and I’m younger and more unsure. He’s a suburbs guy, and I want lavish city life.

Does anyone else ever feel like their parents lean too heavily on them for financial support? Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love them and I’m so thankful. It just seems like the older they get, the less shy they are about asking for things and I’m hitting a point where I’m going to have to start saying no.

I’m finding that more and more people don’t care about what happens with her family after they die have you been observing this trend as well?

Does your boss know your SO/spouse?

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

Thinking about divorce. Wife had an affair 3 years ago that I haven’t been able to move past. Been married 11 years and have two kids though. Restarting individual and couples therapy before I pull the trigger. Anyone else been in a similar situation? Should I blow up the family if I can’t get beyond this?

Had a really rough drinking episode this past weekend. Broke some things in our house. Don’t remember. For 20 years now, I can have 1-2 drinks and be fine 9/10 times, and that 10% I go HARD. Sometimes I just really need it, but it’s always filled with regret the next day. I really want to be able to drink a glass of wine or have a couple beers, but now my SO says 100% abstinence. Is it possible with my background and history or abuse to even try to do this anymore, or should I completely stop.

I have a student with autism. He is mostly behavioral and at a lower learning level so he has to be in a separate classroom. We try to let him play with the students at recess or join in class parties. He has a sibling that attends school as well. When we were waiting in car line a group of girls talked about how they feel so bad for the sibling because of my student. Thankfully, neither student or sibling heard. But how do I respond to that as an adult? Especially, if they do hear?

I took far yesterday, I really pray to God I pass. It took me over 2 months to go through all that material

Any recommendations on a GMAT program for someone with a high 600s/low 700s baseline and around a month to prepare? Focusing on verbal!

Anyone hired professional help in reviewing an essay? Im applying to both masters and mba, seeking help if the price is reasonable.

Is your company doing regular covid testing ? How frequently are hospitals doing testing for staff

Hi Fish,

What are some good abroad master's degree in data science for Indians?

Thanks in advance

Can anyone refer me to commonwealth bank for technical Business Analyst postion in bengaluru.
Thanks in advance

Trying to pay it forward 🐠: brilliant rising Senior at my undergraduate alma mater [Washington & Lee] wants to take a detour through consulting before Medical School. I’ve given the real...[Cont.]

We all just grindin (work) or why so quiet?

TCS is good for WLB, Career growth and to explore new technologies?

Can’t sleep. Heart pounding anxiety over Thanksgiving drama. Anyone else? What happened? Help make me feel better!

Guys, i am a new joiner and am currently on bench. Did anyone in the group attend l&k give back program in your experience with IBM? What it is all about?

What holidays do the other big 4 have off? How many days are holiday vs mandatory vacation?

So what’s Trump strategy here? Push 800k workers to the brink of death?

For the RMs in this group, curious to know: how many people are you responsible for supporting / allocating to projects?

How many people do you manage? What’s your company’s ratio of Resource Manager to Talent?

Looking for some referrals for any Sr PM roles available for immediate hire please! Thanks in advance. DM me if any info is needed.

Who here is in tech and loves to workout also? Should sub-bowls similar to Reddit be a thing?

If you’re reading this; you are an amazing human being! Hang in there!

I really dislike what I do for a living. I know I will be changing jobs soon but it’ll still be in the same industry. I feel extremely hopeless when I begin to worry that I will be doing this for the next 30 years...I get nervous just thinking about wasting my life like this.

I had something traumatic happen and don’t feel comfortable sharing personal information to the team. I need some time to collect myself but what is the best way to gain empathy?

I am not sure if I could live from project to project. As it makes my over thinking worse and statlrt to feel anxious. But I am not sure too if I could live doing same things over and over.

My head feels clouded and heavy. Nothing has really happened I'm just tired from work (at least that's what I think). You know, like so tired that it's even harder to sleep? I do sleep though, but it doesn't feel like that refreshing sleep. I slept early yesterday and lying in but still don't feel good. Anyone experience this? What do you do?

Recently diagnosed with Cyclothymia by a psychiatrist. My therapist suspects I have bipolar 2.

Was prescribed Lamictal, and I’m hesitant to take medication. Should I get an MD second opinion on diagnosis? Anyone gone through a similar experience have advice to share?

Yesterday was a good day. I was really impressed with myself. I woke up at 5, practiced dance lessons, did two water colors, made breakfast and tea, got to work by 10, put in 8-10 hours of solid work and then came home. It’s been ages since I painted or danced.
However today, I slept till 7:00, did not work out or have food. Still got to work by 10 and did 8 solid hours of work.
Some days are good and some are just okay. And that is okay. Trying to build on my good days and we all can. :)

Today my partner told me it's either I work on this engagement or else. You know what I quit. My visa only has one year left so it's going to be hard to find a job but I don't care. I'm just so done burning my life for a project that kills my daily life

I think my partner is making my eating disorder worse. It seems like he is very conscious of weight or at least looks, and I feel like he often tries to deter me from eating (like if I mention a late lunch he'll reply that we're having dinner soon so to hold off). I'm not sure if he is even aware of it, but he knows about my issues so it makes me wonder. My ED also runs rampant so it could be all in my head. Does anyone have experience dealing with this? I want to say something but not sure how.

I accidentally overshared information about having anxiety and trouble focusing with someone who is kind of important at the company and now I regret it. She never responded and probably forgot about it but my husband told me that I shouldn’t have done that and I shouldn’t share things like that with people at work unless you are really close with them and now I’m freaking out and crying because I’m scared she will remember that and tell my boss or other higher up people.

I’m stuck. No social life, no close friends, no routine. Where do I start so I can rebuild myself? I have restarted my antidepressants so I know that’s going to take about 2 - 4 weeks before kicking in to effect. I’m struggling with some of the side effects nausea, sweating, etc.

What are other options besides therapy and meds? I can’t sit through another appointment of someone asking if I’m thinking of hurting myself or others without getting something from it.

On the verge of quitting because I’m stressed, depressed, feel like I’m constantly frustrated with everyone and everything. Don’t have an alternative lined up ...but also less and less able to cope

Just had my principal call me in to talk for 30 minutes about how my manager is disappointed with my work. My manager has said nothing to me at all. I just want to cry and scream. CONT’D

How do you guys stay positive? I’ve been having a ton of medical issues and I’m sure they’ll be taken care of but they just seem to be piling up. I’m 29 and feel like my body is just breaking down. It really upsets me and need some positivity in my life

Just got prescribed 25mg Zoloft. I’m terrified of taking the plunge of taking meds. Thoughts?

My SO is dealing with a terrible boss who has a history of firing people before their probation period. They have had some really terrible meetings recently and my SO thinks that their boss may be aiming to fire them since my SO is approaching their probation period deadline. Would you quit your job if you were in this situation or is it best to let the company terminate you?

Anyone willing to share their experience w Zoloft (starting, ending, if you had alcohol during, etc) ? May be starting medicine treatment for the first time and would love to learn about some personal experiences

I have really been working on myself to start dating and I met someone who seemed pretty cool, but within two dates dropped some massive baggage. His ex was pregnant and it turned out after it was born he found out it wasn’t his. I feel like he hasn’t really dealt with it, and he’s made some really uncomfortable comments about women that are slowly waving red flags, even though he doesn’t say anything directly about me. Would you have a conversation or run?