Feeling lost. I moved in-house a year ago and loved the job for about 7 months. Then my amazing boss left which left me with an unengaged/unsupportive boss. I hate it. I’m so disappointed with how this great opportunity has devolved. I interviewed with another company and made it to the final rounds. I heard last week that they were going with another candidate but that they’d like me to interview for another role that will be opening shortly. Instead of spending my Sunday night (cont. below) -

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prepping for my insane workweek ahead, I just spent the last few hours applying to more jobs. I cannot even bring myself to look at my work calendar.

There is no point to my post, but I’m feeling so dejected and sad. I won’t go into the details of my current work situation, but I have never felt so ….idk what. Depressed, unmotivated, uninspired don’t even come close. I have to get out, and I will, but I am just so ready to quit without a safety net to escape this. How do you keep forging ahead at a job that makes you feel this way?

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I'm sorry that you feel this way. What are your savings like? Could you just take an unpaid leave of absence?

You could exhaust your PTO/vacation before taking the leave of absence. When you do take the leave of absence, you could put it on a relative if you don't want to say that it is for health reasons if your colleagues/superiors ask. That's what I would do in your situation. It is infinitely easier to find a job when you already have a job. Under no circumstances would I quit with no job.

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Oh no. Stay strong. I am a huge believer in therapy and counseling. So, definitely explore that to the degree that you are able. Your insurance should cover you going to therapy.

Moreover, don't stress about this job anymore. Literally, do the bare minimum not to get fired while you are looking for another job. I would also lean heavily on family and friends. Do not suffer in silence. Let them know that you need their love and support during this season of job searching. You will find something. The job market is still hot in my opinion.

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If you have a toxic boss it makes you feel like you're not a good person you are a good person you're the same person you were before that boss came on

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First and foremost, make sure youre taking care of yourself. eg good diet, excercise, recreation, sleep, socializing, etc. If you're letting work have a significant impact on your ability to care yourself things will continue to spiral.

Second, keep faith in your abilities and all that you've accomplished professionally. You're way you are for a reason and a better opportunity will show itself soon. especially in the current market. However, if you appear dejected/low on confidence your ability to land that next opportunity will be compromised.

Finally, step back where you can in your current role. There most be some projects that can be set aside or delegated. Don't inflate your relative importance to the success or failure of your compamy or you will stress yourself out needlessly and catastrophize every mistake.

Good luck and happy to chat more.

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I tried to practice some much needed self care this weekend. Exercise, baking pastries, the fun things I used to do that I sorely miss. I wanted it would help, but I realized I was running and throwing dough with a frown on my face. I feel like I have the sad cloud from the Zoloft commercial following me around.

I have a call this afternoon with a hiring manager at a role that I think fits me, so your comment about low confidence is timely. I will try to remember my self worth and show that on the call.

As for inflation of my self-worth, you really hit the nail on the head… I think I’ve spiraled into this place where it feels like I hold all the big questions/cards in my hand bc my business partners are emailing constantly and my new manager defers everything to me. My to-do list is 28 items long this morning and getting longer, but I recognize it will not all get done, and the doors will not close tmrrw if I do not reply today. I know that, but I’m struggling to believe it.

Thanks for your kind words and encouragement. I’ll keep trying.

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Hi. I've been there. Had a dream in house job working for the best CLO and then we hired an incompetent new DGC that made my life hell.

I gave myself nine months to see if maybe things would get better. Then I went back to biglaw.

In house can be very overwhelming and lonely when you don't like it and you don't have support. Been there. It sucks. I hear you!

You're doing the right things: applying, setting boundaries, and telling yourself this is not forever. It will be something else soon.

Don't be a martyr: do what's urgent and cut yourself some slack. All the best to you as you navigate your next move. You have skills and will be appreciated by and excited about your next gig. I know it!

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