Feeling so overwhelmed. Trying to find the balance between an ambitious career and raising a toddler. Feel like I am failing on both fronts. Just can't seem to wrap my head around... (Cont)

28 and total income is 220k (125k from job roughly 95k net from rental properties). Live in a LCOL 1 bedroom apartment and trying to keep monthly damage under 2.5k. No debt and reinvest RE gains. Wife wants me to buy a home around 700k, but I do not want my expenses to increase. Right now enjoying work/life because I could care less if I lose my job due to the RE income and low expenses. How do you balance aiming for FIRE and not being “too frugal” (I can see wife’s pov too)?

What is the easiest, fastest and cheapest way to get divorce if we both are ready to get done with it asap
There are No kids from the marriage and any other financials will be easier to settle

How is everyone taking time to indulge in Self Care now that most of us are either about to go back to work, or have started back up with students? I’m having mixed feelings of going back on my end and would love to hear how others are feeling too!

Any recommendations on books or talks or videos I could share with a friend who is inclined towards Islam but hasn't accepted yet?

Thanks!

I have a connection who until recently included the following in her “about” section:
Single mom of 2 teenaged sons.
Tattooed CPA.

I feel like the world has gone crazy.

Do you guys ever feel like you're 'too Asian' in the workplace but 'not Asian enough' when it comes to family/friends? My morals are rooted in Asian traditions, but can't speak my native language well

Why do we always tell people “Be the best version of yourself before starting a relationship?”
I feel this is wrong…first, if you’re someone who constantly wants to be better, this doesn’t work. Also, what happens when you’re going through things and you’re not the best version? What happens is…the going gets tough and then one person leaves the other.

My two young toddlers are home from daycare for the next 1.5 weeks for the holidays, and I have off work to watch them. It’s only been 2 days, and I’m so exhausted that I’m counting down the days until I go back to work and they are in daycare. Does anyone have any tips for enjoying this time? I love my kids so much, but how do SAHMs do this every day? I’m so drained already, and I have no patience left…

what are the biggest red flags in a distance relationship? I would say being spotty on communication is the biggest one for me.

My husband and I are going through our 2nd cycle. He initially asked me to allow his sister to administer my injections because she’s a nurse and I refused. I don’t like depending on people when I am capable of doing things myself. This is taking an emotional toll on me already, but I don’t want him to feel like I’m refusing his help and excluding him from the process, because I won’t take his suggestion. How do I get him to understand?

For those of you with kids, I am looking to travel with my wife and son (who’ll be 2.5 years old at the time of travel) to either Greece or Italy - any suggestions on which one to do? Not planning on doing both in one trip and not looking for suggestions to consider alternatives. Simply looking for advice on which one to do with a toddler this age from those that have experience traveling with kids. Leaning towards Italy but I doubt a 2.5 year old cares much about Roman history.

Binge watched Looking over the weekend and my heart is broken because of the ending. I hate unhappy endings and they make me depressed for days.

Ex who dumped me abruptly before I planned on proposing reached out and wants to meet up 6 months later to try to get back together. I feel mostly anger towards her. Bad idea to accept and meet up

I’m not sure if I’m overthinking this but I (25M) have a feeling a friend(23F) is hitting on me. Whenever we hang out she’ll get really close and keep touching/poking me whenever we need to turn corners, cross the block, etc because she’s the navigator. When we sit next to each other on the bench she’ll be up on my personal space up. Just a lot of shoulder to shoulder touching. I had other female friends this touchy as well but I wouldn’t think anything of it because some people are touchier 1/2

Reached out to an ex after not being in contact for 4 years. Said “Hi, I hope all is well.” No response. Intention was not to get back together (we’re both married now), more to mend fences since we were good friends once upon a time. Was reaching out a mistake?

SO loves to drink... I don't. Getting over him coming home drunk off his face. But he insists on continuing this lifestyle. Not sure what to do.

Anyone in Boston? Trying to find friends that I can relate to more than just by age

I suspect that my dad is cheating on my mum again, he has history of a long affair when I was still a kid. I want to confront him to be sure, but my mum lacks financial security. What should I do?

Just got divorced after being separated for a year. Any suggestions for places to go and meet new folks?

I am having a CTC of 9 and getting married soon (she is not working). Is it going to be problematic for me? I am living in Bangalore but I am not very flashy or party guy.

A little background: I’m a WoC (daughter of refugees and first-Gen college graduate) and have 5+ years of professional experience. Graduated from UCLA in 2016, currently an MPA Candidate (graduating May 2023). I have both private and public sector experience and currently a graduate intern at NYC Mayor’s Office. Looking for any opportunities re:social impact at a start up! I’ve got a clean resume ready to go. Please let me know if you know of any cool start ups I can gain some experience from! 😊

People who have taken massive pay cuts at cushy jobs that they actually like decently well to go to a startup/ something risky - how did you get yourself comfortable with it ?

The Bowl is oddly silent

CCPA- One month from enforcement. Where is everyone at in the process? What was your experience in getting compliant?

Is it possible to move in-house from Big Law as an associate and make more money? If not, what percentage pay cut is normal/worth it?

PPE pain!!! My face is raw from wearing PPE all day every day. What helps?

Anyone in early stage biotech? I’m looking at a BD role for a well financed (~$150M runway) startup with some preclinical programs and a unique development platform. What are some key risks to consider when taking roles like this? I’m overly excited and want to make sure I’m asking the right questions before committing myself to this.

Do associates and partners eat lunch together at your firm?

Best hotel rewards program? Thinking of switching from Marriott.

Question! I booked a Marriott hotel through chase. Does anyone know how I can sync the reservation to my Bonvoy account? The chase confirmation number provided does not work. Thanks!

1st year associate (started Oct). First performance review is soon. How should I be preparing for this? Any insight on what to expect, what to ask, and/or how best to make use of this time?

Any idea how to clear CRISIL assessment for credit analyst kindly help I've to clear it.

Hi Folks,
Please suggest which company is best,holding offers in below companies
1) Bahwan CyberTek - 22 fixed
2) Deloite India - 21.5 fixed + 2L Variable + 1 L joining bonus
3) Indegen Private Limited - 23.5 fixed + 1.25 Variable+ 1 L Joining bonus
4) cognizant 22.3 fixed + 70k Variable
5) atos 24.7 fixed + 1.3 Variable+ 1 lakh joining bonus
5) zensar 26 fixed
6) itcinfotech 27 lpa + 1L joining bonus
7) lnt 28 lpa fixed
8) wibmo 26 lpa fixed+ RSU 20K USD

YOE: 6 years
Role: Fullstack developer

I started my career in UX recently and i am disappointed to see my company not following proper UX. Do you face the same?

Anyone have any leads on any functional/non dev Salesforce roles?

Working on a post to see if I can get picked up in here. Wish me luck.

Recently experimented with adding meds the past month (feel horrible still) and this weekend my friend group dumped me after I blacked out and did something horrible. I don’t know how to help myself and I’m starting to spiral

How to get someone with bipolar and/or insomnia to sleep? Pleaaaaasse help

Decided I’m going to quit in the medium term to take some time off. It’s been really difficult to keep the same work ethic and as a result am creating more anxiety for myself. Any advice? (Contd)

Does anyone else go through giants swings of clarity/confusion? I have these moments where I’m sure 2020 is going to be my year, and the other moments where I just ask myself, “what’s the point?”

Been a while since I’ve dated.. started talking to someone.. things were going well... then text responses went from timely to 4-5 hours. Should I move on? No need to add this to list of overthinking..

Does anyone get depressed on a sort of seasonal schedule? Not like SAD, but in cycles throughout the year that seem to track to the same time period each year.

I love spring and summer, but every March, my depression gets significantly worse for a few weeks. I usually have a second dip in August/September. I’ve yet to identify a trigger, only a pattern…

How do you guys deal with the politics of consulting? I have bad anxiety as it is, but it’s really wearing on me. I feel singled out in a lot of cases by colleagues who don’t have much tact (contd)

So, my timing isn't what it used to be. I left the firm in January after I had a real talk with myself and admitted that this was not what I wanted to do and was not at all good for my mental health.

Tell me it’s ok not to want another child. Tell me that having one kid is enough and he won’t regret not having a sibling. I am not mentally ready for another child. I’m 40 years old and I’m just done. I like where I’m career wise, life wise. I feel horrible about lying to my spouse. But I can give so much more to this one child than to two.

I’m getting married in two weeks and going on my honeymoon the week after. I’m starting to worry so much about everything that could go wrong and derail everything, one of our parents getting sick, my fiancé or I getting sick so that we can’t enjoy this wonderful life moment. I’m so nervous that something will happen. Anyone else go through this pre-wedding anxiety or pre-vacation anxiety? Need some soothing words I can repeat to myself. Thanks!

I was just let go from my company.
I had a feeling something was up, but didn’t think it would go down like this.
Trying to keep my head up but I’m so so disappointed and I know that the depression will hit soon enough.

Friends - facing weird neurological and anxiety symptoms, but remains a mystery what it is. Wondering if this is an anxiety disorder or stress hyper stimulation or vestibular issue. Hoping to hear about your symptoms with anxiety disorders or if you have symptoms similar to mine. My symptoms: tinnitus in ears, jittery sensation in morning, light dizziness, slight balance issue, tension headache, slight numbness / diffused sensation in left toes/ left fingers, occasional pain in left knee. Ty

I really struggle with sharing any personal hardships with anyone, including my wife. Anyone else the same way? Why is it so hard to open up?