It’s difficult but worth the wait. That’s what I keep telling myself. I avoid talking to people about it because it gives me anxiety. When I was waiting, I would drown myself in work, gym and then watch something heart warming on tv. Made me feel better for some time.
I go through impatient anxiety every year, like I literally feel anxious and lose the motivation to pretty much do anything. Then a month later I'd pull myself out and this cycle goes on and on. Now this attacks me more frequently than annual cycle because I'm trying to pursue JD but can't. Have to wait it out.
I think if you are just waiting for PERM approval it should be much easier. If you are waiting for H1B or any sort of work visa....well, try to get your employer to file PERM as quickly as you can. The toll of uncertainty takes on you can add up. I never would have guessed I would ever develop clinical depression. Well, the immigration in the US did it.
Dealing with immigration stuff for a over a decade and still looking at the long wait times for green card, my patience are over and heading out this year.
Unfortunately no one has an answer but we all feel the same. Try not to think about it every single day. Enjoy the US life my virtual friend. It'll be worth the wait in the end and this will make you more resilient and more competitive compared to most of the ones that don't have to go through the process.
When we don't know what will happen tomorrow then why to think for something which will come after 15-20 years. Just enjoy your work, family time and save little for future thats all in our hand.
Agree with EY 1 here. Just shut it out. Don't make it a habit to check the uscis status website. First couple of days are gonna be hard, but once you make a habit to not do it, you'll intuitively just stop thinking about it
Find a hobby that calms you especially when you find yourself stressing out or anxious. And try and focus on the things you can control, taking each day as it comes instead of worrying about the future or things you can not control.
I don’t know how but I somehow am able to completely shut it all out; as in not think about it at all. It’s not that I don’t care but my reasoning is that once I do my part, the rest is beyond my control.
Hang in there, take on the suggestions and encouragement provided in the above comments.
Could sound cliche, but focus on the things that are under your control. I know it’s easier said than done, but that’s how I usually deal with the immigration stuff uncertainty. At the end, this uncertainty is part of the process, the awful part, but there are other good stuff as well. I did find it helpful to talk about it, but with people that I know will add something positive/relevant and have my best interest in mind, so a really small group of people. If you are the planning type of person, don’t stop planning, but keep it realistic. Hard balance to find with uncertainty, but life doesn’t stop.
Also, something that worked for me was being as informed as I could, and if you have questions that would be better answered by your lawyer (or the company’s lawyer), don’t be afraid to ask for clarifications.
I got it in my last attempt . Thing that helped me was just knowing what will happen if I don’t get the visa. Once I did that I lost the fear/anxiety .
It’s difficult but worth the wait. That’s what I keep telling myself. I avoid talking to people about it because it gives me anxiety. When I was waiting, I would drown myself in work, gym and then watch something heart warming on tv. Made me feel better for some time.
Being patient is tough sometimes - I try to keep myself occupied but just end up watching immigration videos on YouTube 😁
Rising Star
I go through impatient anxiety every year, like I literally feel anxious and lose the motivation to pretty much do anything. Then a month later I'd pull myself out and this cycle goes on and on. Now this attacks me more frequently than annual cycle because I'm trying to pursue JD but can't. Have to wait it out.
I think if you are just waiting for PERM approval it should be much easier. If you are waiting for H1B or any sort of work visa....well, try to get your employer to file PERM as quickly as you can. The toll of uncertainty takes on you can add up.
I never would have guessed I would ever develop clinical depression. Well, the immigration in the US did it.
Rising Star
Being on visa for 10+years does the job for,me
Dealing with immigration stuff for a over a decade and still looking at the long wait times for green card, my patience are over and heading out this year.
Chief
Unfortunately no one has an answer but we all feel the same. Try not to think about it every single day. Enjoy the US life my virtual friend. It'll be worth the wait in the end and this will make you more resilient and more competitive compared to most of the ones that don't have to go through the process.
When we don't know what will happen tomorrow then why to think for something which will come after 15-20 years. Just enjoy your work, family time and save little for future thats all in our hand.
Agree with EY 1 here. Just shut it out. Don't make it a habit to check the uscis status website. First couple of days are gonna be hard, but once you make a habit to not do it, you'll intuitively just stop thinking about it
Find a hobby that calms you especially when you find yourself stressing out or anxious. And try and focus on the things you can control, taking each day as it comes instead of worrying about the future or things you can not control.
This may sound odd but I pour myself into rock climbing when life is hectic. I too am immigrating right now. Wel, I’m waiting lol
Try not to think about the result. Take it by the day and live that fully.
I don’t know how but I somehow am able to completely shut it all out; as in not think about it at all. It’s not that I don’t care but my reasoning is that once I do my part, the rest is beyond my control.
Hang in there, take on the suggestions and encouragement provided in the above comments.
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Hang in there my friend. This crap sucks but we will prevail!
Could sound cliche, but focus on the things that are under your control. I know it’s easier said than done, but that’s how I usually deal with the immigration stuff uncertainty. At the end, this uncertainty is part of the process, the awful part, but there are other good stuff as well.
I did find it helpful to talk about it, but with people that I know will add something positive/relevant and have my best interest in mind, so a really small group of people.
If you are the planning type of person, don’t stop planning, but keep it realistic. Hard balance to find with uncertainty, but life doesn’t stop.
Also, something that worked for me was being as informed as I could, and if you have questions that would be better answered by your lawyer (or the company’s lawyer), don’t be afraid to ask for clarifications.
hang in there (as do I), if you are wondering about it- it’s probably close. Else you’d be thinking of alternatives already.
I got it in my last attempt . Thing that helped me was just knowing what will happen if I don’t get the visa. Once I did that I lost the fear/anxiety .
To me, it is what it is. I have inhibited and learned to be patient over the years with many things. Immigration is just another one.