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It’s okay, we’ve all been there and felt that shame. We understand.
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Get off your pity pot, dust yourself off and get to some meetings asap. Tell on yourself and thank God you still alive. I kept going in and out of the rooms never really being honest with myself and definitely not with my sponsor and those people trying to help me. By the grace of God I kept coming back and today I have 30 years clean and sober. Please give yourself a break because it’s not just for you. If you live and I am praying you do. You will be able to help that person who is still struggling and you will be the best person to help them.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😍😍😍
One day at a time bud. And don’t lie to your sponsor, you can tell them you’re acting out. Their goal is to help you get yourself to stop. Good sponsors know how to ask questions to figure out what’s going on to make you want to do those things and how to get better about avoiding it. He probably already knows you’re lying to him.
I get the not wanting to face the music, I really do. Had the conversation with my sponsor plenty about that. I really like it and don’t want to stop. The way he got me to think about it is what happens if I act out again? Probably lights out for my marriage, and I value my wife and kids more than I value my addiction.
It does get easier, but you gotta do the work.
If this disease was easy to treat there’d be no AA , keep coming back
One hour at a time. You will get there. Every day is a new day.
Sometimes I feel like it’s hard to be honest in my group; I feel like they look to me for hope and inspiration, and yet I often feel like a fraud. Honesty is difficult. We have to keep trying.
Did you act out alone or with someone else?
the only inspiration [ experience, strength and hope!!] comes from watching someone else work an honest program and get better. The danger is setting ANYONE, including ourselves, up as the perfection to emulate. That is a huge red flag. I am not better and NO WORSE than anyone sitting at the table.
Well said!
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Honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness. Whenever I lose focus on one (or all) of those three things I either learn a boundary or get reminded of an old one. We’re imperfect humans; don’t be too hard on yourself. Just do the next right thing and remember that the greatest strength can be found in surrender.
So true! And I consider willingness a renewable resource. I can pray to the God of my understanding for more willingness. And with that -- along with the Honesty and Open-mindedness -- I can allow my Higher Power to effect the inside change that must occur if I am to recover and live at peace in recovery.
Your Higher Power will take on the impossible if you shoulder responsibility for the possible.
Before I took seriously the Solution of the 12 Steps, I had to desperately want recovery more than I wanted to live in addiction. Sometimes we need to face even more pain before the choice becomes clearer. It's not a program for those who want it or need it...only for those who do it. Every day.
Regardless, you're on your path. No matter how far off track it *seems* you are, you're only 12 Steps away from serenity.
My program of recovery may appear to take a lot of effort, every day, but it's nowhere near the work it was to live in active addiction, and follow the will of a tyrant: my disease.
All the best to you. Don't give up!