Fellas: Would you want to be financially supported by your wife/woman that you plan on becoming your wife? Ladies: If a guy tells you that, is that a turn off? Short version: I asked a guy I’ve been chatting with what he wants, and he says to be taken care of by a woman. I was like is this a new trend? I respect the choices of others but he comes off as a man that wants to be the head of the household, the wife cooks and cleans etc., so when I heard that I was like “Are you serious 🤔?”

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If a man says he wants to be taken care of by a woman- pretty sure he means that he wants the woman to do all the house work, have dinner ready every night at 6 PM and do all the child rearing. I don't think he means financially (unless he stated that)

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He wants a mom. Complete child. Avoid like the plague.

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Guy here: I actual would love to be a stay-at-home dad because I think im very good at parenting. Also I cook a lot better than most women I dated and enjoy it a lot as well. I enjoy cleaning, doing groceries and all these stuff. I have one daughter from my previous relationship and I realized how much I enjoy and love our daily routine (including the stressful situations). Im doing quite good for myself (TC close to 250k) but if I was to meet a woman that would earn enough to support us all, and ofc if she is absolutely fine with it, I would not mind to pause my career and dedicate myself to raising our kids and taking care of our household.

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@BA 1, male. I don't think it's actually most men's dream. Maybe minus the ones who lack certain qualities

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I would never want this.

I actually don't think most men want this, however many women have boasted themselves as basically successful men as their main attributes. Not surprised someone's calling a few women's bluff.

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Ok. I was just wondering if men really wanted to be. I know dating is different now, so I was wondering if this is new.

I would NOT mind at all if my girlfriend supported me financially lol

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I’d consider it with a good looking emotionally supportive man that’s neat, great cook & doing all or most domestic duties.

But not if he wants to “lead” the household.

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Because, being a stay at home dad for 2 kids and having to risk your life only for a 100k household sounds horrendous of a deal (to me)

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This is the way…most newer generations (millennials and younger) are looking for a partner, not a housewife. Albeit the data I have is anecdotal (ie all my bros) but yea this is what we want. As me and my buds half joke this is the new American dream.

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I don’t actively seek it out but if the conversation happened when we were starting a family and it made more financial sense for me to be a stay at home dad, I would.

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I am a women and I make 3X as much as my male partner. We are expecting our first baby and to me it would make sense for him to be a stay at home dad. However, he does not want to do this. So we’ll probably use most of his salary to cover child care 🤷🏽‍♀️. I don’t mind supporting my partner as long as it makes sense.

Just for more information on us; I am in healthcare and he is an engineer.

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Would love a lil house husband, as long as he cooks & cleans

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There’s always someone for everybody and honestly there are many out there who wouldn’t mind being a house husband/wife. Given making it your first few comments that you want your potential SO to take care of you entirely is a red flag for me and would be a turn off. The ‘who gets to be a housewife/househusband’ is a down the line question if you were in the relationship for a significant time and were looking into marriage.

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Guy: no, I already have trouble with my gf probably earning more than me by the end of next year.

I am the protector…I must earn more.

Will likely move back to private practice in a few years as a result

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Guy here: ideally I want a working wife but I don’t want her to be workaholic and have very little time for other things. I am not looking to be financially taken care of by her but she can have her own money to spend on herself/chime in here and there like vacation or her own family side

For my ego, I want her to make similar to what I make but not significantly more (50%+)

I am traditional in this sense because no matter how helpful a guy can be as a dad, a child will rely on their mom heavily in the early stages. I don’t think it’ll be equal 50-50 when it comes to household responsibilities. So i would rather have the bigger share of $ making responsibility

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Associate 1, are you male or female? For me it’s not something that I would want, although I have joked before that it’s every man’s dream. There was a time in my first marriage that my ex-husband did have that opportunity, he was in between jobs and he stayed home taking care of her daughter while I went to work. But it only lasted weeks.

I don’t mind a man wanting to stay home and be the stay at home dad. The thing with this guy is he wants to be “the man” when convenient if you know what I mean. Like, he believes there are gender roles etc. yet when it’s time to be the “man” insert eye roll 🙄 he doesn’t want to be.

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Never want this. 50-50 is my way. He is his own responsibility and I am my own responsibility. Fair and square !

Thanks! I sure am one of a kind 😀

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