Fellow Desis - Do you still hold importance to caste? Especially when it comes down to your/your kids marriage?

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Nope. Asked my dad what caste we are since friends asked and he said were human just like everyone else. That’s what I learned growing up. My dad genuinely didn’t know our caste and my mom wasn’t sure either - we googled it lol!

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Yeah! Also he grew up Arya Samaji (mixed feelings about this group reading on the history of re conversation and now BJP stuff these days ) - so there’s no caste. My parents got married without a horoscope for the same reason as well.

Don’t hold any importance to caste but can’t stand the people who masquerade as champions of ending caste based discrimination and then stand in the line of caste based education and job reservation in India.

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Bcg1 do you follow/read on BLM movement? What and why are they protesting? You might find a lot of similarity with why the reservations exist in India. Look for a better sample size that spans across the nation than comparing some guy in your school and you might find more logic.

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Yes, i am gay and I am looking for a guy in my own caste. If anyone knows of a Brahmin gay guy, please let me know 😂

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North or South Indian? Any preference? 🤔

same as C1. Like they are saying here 'not racists' is not enough, need to be 'anti-racist'. Same.

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Caste... 🤢🤮

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Chhi chhhi chhii, itna ashudh kiya vatavarn vaman ke saath. Niklo yahan se, ram ram ram!

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No kids yet. But my only restriction would be human. No trees please :)

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What about other food group. Have you tried to make love with pie or icecream cake.

When I will have a kid I will make sure the marriage is inter racial or something which challenges the whole caste system. No the future me would say No to your question

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What do you expect OP? No one will answer yes but I read a statistic somewhere that less than 5% of Indian marriages are inter-caste. Going by that, the answer to this is probably a overwhelming No.

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This is like asking are you a racist! What answer do you expect to get ?

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Clearly Archiect 1 out himself.

I got only 2 rules, no cousins and no interplanetary race mixup. Given we will be colonizing mars in 40 yrs, my future kid shouldn't be looking for love outside earth.

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#Nocaptionneeded

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Married inter caste. Parents eventually agreed

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Married inter caste myself. I don’t give a hoot.

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Not caste but Religion will likely be a bridge too far

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yes.. am against inter caste ,inter religion or even inter region(outside my state) marriages for my kids. i can wine dine and work together but not marriage..if the kids still decide to go their way..i am ok with that too...let them have a happy life..just that i wont be a part of their lives..

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Architect1 wahi londa hai jise that girl rejected due to the fact that he had no green card and eb2 visa. He is struggling to get a good girl to marry him. Daya karo ladke par

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Big no

I come from one of the castes in south India which are rabidly casteist, I married inter caste and the parents had to agree eventually. I see no caste for myself nor my kids!

I will be happy if my kid marry and continue family name with my grandkids

Yes, ppl need to be more nuanced when it comes to these conversations. Personally my family will be ok with inter caste marriage with most other castes even though we are upper caste. I have never seen caste when making friends in life either.

I’m a Jain person who did something entirely different: I married a White woman who used to be a Hare Krishna. It took some time for my parents to wrap their minds around that fact.

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