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Fellow 🐠 gays - when do you anticipate you will start talking about/want kids? Also interested if you’re single/partnered and if that has any correlation with your thoughts.

23/M for why it’s worth

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Plan on having two kids (adoption) within the next 12 to 18 months. Single and feel I am emotionally ready for kids. Would have preferred to be partnered or married (being a single dad is not easy) but I also realize that you can’t control everything.

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Amazing. Care to share your age, location and level? Just want to understand the harder stuff surrounding your emotional readiness.

28 and married. Used to want kids but now that I have a step daughter I’m like... 😒

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The bae was with in a hereto relationship prior to you? How often do you interact with the kid?

27 single. Some days I want kids, some days I just want plants

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33 years old, single and not interested in having kids. Will I feel differently in the future? Maybe.

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I love the crisp self awareness and wisdom in this post.

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I hadn’t thought about it then I turned 33 and all of a sudden wanted kids. I’m 34 now and my goal is to have a husband and a kid by the time I’m 40!

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I’m 34 - never wanted kids until I turned 30... then became more real year by year. Dating for 2 years and hope to make this guy my husband soon 😍... then kids a year or two after.

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FFS I’m 28 and still single
Kids aren’t even in the realm of possibility yet

In ~4-5 years would be ideal, but doubt it will happen

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Thank you!!

35- met partner at 20 and it was always a “someday” conversation. Started the process at 28, adopted our daughter at 30. Neither of us could have afforded the career hit any earlier but it sure is nice knowing we will still have a good number of years to generate higher income after she’s done with college!

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I’ll start - 23/M and single - I have no desire to even think about wanting kids so early in my career. In addition, I would like to be partnered/married prior to having kids which easily puts me in my mid 30s and that is clearly not going to happen any time soon. I chat with a lot of folks my age who are starting to get baby fever already and we immediately have a huge disconnect — am I atypical for not wanting kids??

24/M, want kids asap, but probably won’t have them until late 20s / 30

Been with boyfriend for 1.5 years! And nah @ second question, but def want to be aligned with him on timeline

Single AF, turning 40 this year, so yea, that thought is over. I probably would have considered up to my mid-thirties if I had a partner.

Single and 40, would like to do surrogacy in 10 years like Andy Cohen if I can afford the nanny and helpers. Doubt I’ll have a partner by the. But one can only wish.

You will be a partner by then SM2 and may not need a partner 🤣

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45M, married, never had baby fever until this past year. Husband’s 2 years older, so we both feel it’s just not realistic at this point in our lives. We don’t want to be trying to retire when our kid is graduating from HS. Wouldn’t even think about having a kid without having someone to help raise it.

That’s not something we’ve really thought about. For us, the idea of having a child is also having the experience of raising it.

So many single 30 and 40 somethings here. Guess I’m not the only one.

37 single - I had a child at a young age who’s now going to college soon. I don’t want anymore! Before he hit teenage years I really wanted another one. Not anymore, teenagers are rough!

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