Finally chose the “nice guy” after years of chasing toxic ones. He may not be the most attractive but he stole my heart & we are getting married in June!

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Tbh the way you wrote it, sounds like you're settling. Kinda rude to say 'he's not the most attractive, but at least he's nice.' Do you say that to his face?

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I totally agree with SC1. Whether or not you think it, it’s usually not said. Does she say this to his face? If I just got engaged the last thing I’d be thinking about is “he’s not the most attractive!” I wonder all the time why women aren’t swooning over my husband because I think he’s a hottie. But maybe to others he’s not. But regardless what do I care

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Congrats. I married a “nice” guy too. 5 yrs later, still Best decision ever!

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That’s great to hear!!

So happy for you ! I just feel I fall back into the trap of missing my ex and not able to move on :( something is surely wrong with me

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You’re not alone.

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So happy for you!! Congrats!

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Congrats!!!

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OP. This was literally me 7 years ago. Was very unsure if the attraction thing would make marriage tough, but he was just a great guy. Couldn't be happier with my decision now. We are coming up on our 5 year wedding anniversary this year and planning on baby. Stable, supportive, caring, responsible men get a lot sexier in your minds eye as you get older.

Congratulations by the way!

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Congrats!

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Congratulations 🎊🎉

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Congratulations! I went almost a decade getting involved with toxic guys and finally chose the nice guy who happened to be one of my good friends and I am happier than ever!

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Congrats! I also married a nice guy after toxic relationships. Plus, he’s also attractive ☺️☺️☺️

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You guys are giving me hope!

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Congratulations! I did the same 10 years ago and never looked back. My hubby isn't what I had typically thought of as my physical "type", but he is adorable and turned out to be perfect for me in the end. Best and most life-changing decision I've ever made! When it's right, it's right. Wishing you a beautiful wedding and many, many years of married bliss!

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Yup. This is worded better than what I wrote above and more in line with the description in my head of my husband. Pick the right personality and mind set and you'll be good to go OP.

Congratulations!!! This is so exciting!!

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Congrats OP! So happy for you!

Congrats!!

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