Finally went back to the office today and went to lunch with a couple colleagues with a client we are working to retain after the relationship partner retired. Great lunch, great conversation. As we were wrapping up client asked me about my due date (I am very obviously pregnant), so I let him know - Sept. 26. He proceeded to let me know he knew I had some fun at New Year’s… like what? Can we not? I just laughed it off bc how else do you respond in front of colleagues and a client? Blech.

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That’s gross

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Omg cringe

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Ewwwww.

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Gross. I admit that I do this in my head with conception dates, but I would NEVER mention it and really wish my brain wasn't interested in it.

I don’t think it’s the weirdest thought to have, just one you should really keep to yourself, particularly in this context. So sounds like you’re appropriately using your filter 😉

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I’m so happy to find that it wasn’t just my hormones making me skeeved on this.

I hate that stuff like this makes me doubt my credibility and experience as an attorney, like does the client or partner only want to work with me because I make them think of sex?

Maybe they’re just a bit of a schmuck with a lack of filter 🤷🏻‍♀️. I encounter people like this so often that it doesn’t get to me anymore.

Had a stranger try that kind of joke with me once. Long time ago with first baby. I must’ve given him the right look because he came back to me and apologized a few minutes later. Tactless and so hard to deal with from a client or
Colleague. Yuck

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