Finding it hard to trust anyone on my team, including my manager who for a while thought I could trust. Going to work is extremely hard when you feel like people don’t have your back. Anyone else?

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I learned the hard way: trust no one. Treat everything you say to anyone as something you told everyone. If you need a confidante, make it a friend outside your workplace. Just work hard, avoid gossiping, and be super pleasant

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Trust is hard at work. I have felt the same (still do about my manager). What’s worked for me is I kept my head down, worked extremely hard, played nice with everyone and completely avoided gossip and complaining. Eventually, I found my person.

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Be someone that everyone wants to work with. But remember, there's no loyalty in corporations or agencies. Never let anyone know what you're really thinking. Watch both Godfather films for reference. Just smile, be pleasant and do your best. Cool as a cucumber as you ride around with a body in the trunk.

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Got pushed under the bus too, only thing i can do is not be that person too

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Never trust anyone, including your manager. I found as I got more senior I encountered more "the team feedback I'm getting is..." instead of grownups just using their words and speaking with you directly.

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I thought my manager had my back at my last two jobs, but when push came to shove, they each shoved me under the bus to save his own ass. At my current shop, it’s very clear that I can’t trust anyone and I almost prefer knowing it.

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I’m lucky enough to have a handful of people I do trust at work, which is why I’m underpaid and still here...

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Conversely, you can spread opinions and information that reflect well on you by confiding it in a blabbermouth. I’ve done this and it worked great.

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Found out my directors were the most untrustworthy people ever. Needless to say I’m not staying here long. You work too closely with people to not trust them and feel like they don’t have your back

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Trust no one usually helps. Agree with @ACD1, work hard, expect nothing from anybody and close the day by really unplugging

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Trust no one.

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I've been there, it's aweful, now I'm not it's better

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Yup. All alone. Manager definitely not on my side about anything

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Been there. It’s tough. Time to recalibrate.

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Right there with ya. Trying to maneuver through the same obstacle right now.

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I despise this part of advertising and business, never have wanted to accept the truth of this. But it's truth.

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It’s the worst feeling!

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Work friends aren’t real friends. Being a social animal I tend to forget that, and before long I’m burned by yet another climber.

Don’t confide in anyone. Maybe you can confide in immediate family, unless you work with family in which case your family can’t be your friends. So maybe don’t work with family.

As others have said, keep your head down and work hard and the good people above you should hopefully recognize it.

Best not complain about much of anything, unless it’s to your creative services manager about overwork or HR if there’s a significant issue.

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Considering actually putting in my 2 weeks because of that exact reason

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I’m with Media Supervisor 1. I’ve been lucky enough to find that my manager is also my best mentor and confidant. Which is also why I’ve stayed at this agency way longer than I probably should have. Having a good manager who you can trust and supports you 100% is too rare of a find - but it is out there!

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