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If a guy accepts my offer to split the Bill On the first date I take that as a sign that he’s not interested and wouldn’t initiate any further communication with him. Would you accept a woman’s offer to split the Bill if you were interested in her?
Some women just genuinely want to be equals. I’m sure some of them split because they don’t want a second date. Some of them let me pay even if they don’t want to see me again. I don’t really keep track because I don’t like to think about money
I always offer to pay. If I know there’s not going to be a second date I’m more adamant about splitting. If I want a second I offer to pay for our second date and then I usually do. Women earn 82 cents to a man’s dollar so yes to equality but we’re not living in equal times so I genuinely appreciate when a guy pays.
As a man, I pay. But would be annoyed if the lady doesn’t even pretend to offer to split. Still, I would refuse that, but the assumption by a lady that the man will cover the full bill is a major turnoff and a reason for me to not follow up after the date.
I agree. . . At least show you’re willing to
Enthusiast
We are in 2020s. Ladies, you work just like us and preach about equality, so pay your share of the bill. It’s probably higher than the guys tab anyway.
Belive me you find better people when you continue dating the women who split.
Maybe I’m old school but I appreciate the gentleman paying for the first date
Usually the guys cover but I always ask - I never want to assume. I may feel some type of way if they take me up on the offer though 😂 but I do try to be cognizant of how much I’m ordering/what I order.
@SC2 yes, I’m down to be a housekeeper and to raise our children so long as he is the provider for the household. Most men today couldn’t cut in the 50s/60s when men were traditional and happy to provide. Men expect women to go 50/50 while also expecting women to bear the load of domestic duties. Sign me up for a traditional marriage plz!
Guy, I would certainly ask to split but if the guy said yes, I know I would be turned off.
Mean what you say and say what mean. These tests are a turn off for guys.
Well usually we are both guys so….. yes the guy.
We split. We are here to meet and get to know each other, not to get a free meal.
Conversation Starter
So on date 3 when I invite a guy over to my home and cook a 2/3 course meal, should I request that we split the cost of the groceries and beverages?
Yep, and vice versa when he invites you over on date 5.
I always expected to split, and always offered to.
It’s nice if they cover it, but not a requirement.
Fwiw my first dates were 99% drinks not dinner so not a huge bill.
Conversation Starter
I always offer but I take it as a sign as to how the date went. Ngl, kind of a turnoff when they don’t pick up the first bill though. It’s more about chivalry then the $ value, bc im happy to split every bill after.
Yup! I totally agree
If you ask me on a date, you pay. If I ask you on a date, I pay.
If two people decided to spend time together, then it doesn’t matter who asked first. You thought it was a good idea as much as the person who asked did.
Dating has become way too transactional with this whole splitting debate. I don’t know why a man wouldn’t be raised to treat on the first date…and even the dates following that, if he’s serious about getting to know the girl. If you’re in your early 20’s and just dating to have fun, maybe it’s different. But at the end of the day I don’t understand how a man could judge a woman on the first date for not offering to split when it is literally a first date and he barely knows her character. If her not offering to split rubs him the wrong way, then it probably wasn’t a great date and he probably feels it was a waste of time. I don’t think the one transactional element of the date should be so built up/overanalyzed like this. If it’s the right person, they’ll make a good impression and you’ll want to treat.
You have a good idea of how much someone makes based off their job. Or even industry. Nobody is running a detailed analysis.
When income was an issue for me, I typically split with my dates when my counterpart was a white collar professional, but I always covered when my date was still in college/grad school.
Guy
Doesn’t matter to me, either way.
If they offer, I’ll take them up on it.
What about subsequent dates?