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Same but I try to focus on the good! Not having to ride the train when I had morning sickness was a blessing. Lunch time naps were life savers. I’ve spent more time with my husband in 10 months than I did the previous 8 years combined. I don’t have the feeling that all my friends/coworkers are at the bar and im at home or stone cold sober missing out. I had a zoom baby shower and it actually went well and was super cute! I’ll have a post birth in-person baby shower when I can, hopefully in the summer. And then I’ll be able to drink mimosas with my friends :)
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In the same boat! Lots of facetime with friends and supportive family members to cope. Silver lining is that I’m easily able to avoid all toxic people, thanks to Covid
Just had my first child a few days ago. Felt the same many times- still sad not to be able to have people come over, grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends can’t meet baby for who knows how long. BUT- here are the silver linings: (1) Had a virtual baby shower - it was awesome! Also- no cleanup, almost zero expenses (no need to feed everyone), format enabled friends and family to introduce themselves (whereas usually people would only hang out with those they know), didn’t have to struggle to carry gifts home (2) Time at home, just me and my husband - no travel for work or the stress that comes with travel (3) No one sees you so they can’t tell when you’re showing- therefore, no pressure to tell work at any specific time (4) Opportunities to rest or lay down throughout the day, to eat more nutritious meals at home instead of eating out, to fit in a quick workout in the middle of the day (5) Save money on some of the gimmicky things that come along with a pregnancy- like a maternity shoot, etc. And yes, everyone is dealing with their own stuff during covid, so sometimes it will feel terribly lonely, but be grateful you have your husband and you’re not alone! People still care about you- it’s just hard to provide the attention you feel you need during this tough time. I know how you feel. You can make the effort to talk with friends / family on the phone, if you’re less comfortable with zoom/video. Don’t feel like they don’t care about you - just reach out and you’ll be glad you did. I hope some of these help you to see the bright side. I know it’s hard- a lot of people have been through the same. And I think to myself - there’s always the potential second child to have the opportunity to do some of these things that we are missing out on. You got this, mama. Stay strong!
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Don’t underestimate how much pregnancy hormones mess with your mood and emotions. Give yourself grace to feel sad while knowing that you are also supported. You are allowed to be a blubbering mess if you need to be. Keep talking to your MD about it too. They actually recommended that I go do outdoor masked activities with friends for my mood.
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I’m almost seven months and still sad about no gender reveal, no in person shower, no prenatal yoga or mommy classes..... sad to miss these traditions that I’d hoped for.
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Had my baby in July so was also pregnant in quarantine. Missed our baby moon and didn’t have an in person shower. My mom is not tech savvy but organized an awesome virtual shower. She sent decorations to me and and my in laws and we all decorated the same. I got to see friends and relatives from all over the globe that would have otherwise never been able to be there. It was really sweet and I felt loved. All that is to say there are ways to make this special and you are far from alone. Hang in there.
erm yeah. I'm also pregnant right now but don't dwell on those things - gender reveal, baby shower, why do they matter so much? what matters is that the baby is healthy, that you're healthy and that you and your partner are still very happy - don't let anything else distract you or bring you down!
I’m a few days shy of my EDD... so the whole pregnancy have been covid lockdown in California for me. It’s really not that bad. With the lack of celebrations, comes with a lot of time to nurture the growing seed inside you. Get lots of exercise as much as you can (walking/yoga), and lots of rest!!! With the lack of travel now, your body is able to incubate the baby at its potential. As for talking to people.. it’s all virtual these days. I have a set of people that’s all pregnant at the same time that I chat with every single day. Having company really helps, even when they’re not physically close by. Good luck in your journey!
Also to add... I have my ups and downs throughout the pregnancy too. Pregnancy hormones doesn’t help ;) Not having a single family member near me has been a pain. Not being able to have family support me post partum is something that I’m still working to deal with... all being said, it’s a blessing to have your partner supporting you every step of the way. Many forums (such as Fishbowl, BabyCenter, WhatToExpect) is also a good outlet to connect with mamas like us..
I know how upsetting it can feel as I just had my first. However at the end of the day, a healthy baby outweighs everything else. I had a high risk pregnancy and it gave me a lot of perspective. Take care of yourself in any way you can, ask people to take photos of you smiling so that one day your baby can see how they brought you joy in this sucky time :)
I just had my daughter during Covid as well and missed out on all this...as well as a lot of the traditions and support after birth. I’m still really sad about it.
Ditto. Me too. I cried it out, mopped around and eventually just moved on. Try to find something else to treat yourself with in the future, like a trip to somewhere you've always wanted to go, and plan for it for 2023. Having something exciting and adventurous helped me feel better and move on from my disappointment.
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I hate FaceTime. 😭 I find it so awkward and honestly, I tried to find reach out to some friends to set up time to FaceTime and it's still hard. I really do feel alone. No one has actively reached out to me, it just seems everyone has their own covid worries and such.
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My family doesnt understand technology and we just haven't seen each other since the start of covid. It's just me and my husband. He's doing his best but I still just feel so alone.
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How do I ask a friend to throw me a virtual baby shower? This feels so awkward to ask. :(
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If it feels awkward, you can get your partner/husband/family to reach out to one of your friends and organise a “surprise” for you. Another idea that was organised for a close friend of mine: a virtual babyshower but not on zoom etc. as it was hard to coordinate across time zones. We all sent various things, spread out over a month. A good friend of hers organized - sent an email to her friends, explaining the plan with suggested weeks for each person (2-3 people per week). It was up to each person to send whatever they wanted, with a note that included a specific hashtag so she’d understand they were all part of the same plan. She got flowers, gifts, gift cards, videos, etc, was very happy and somehow got connected to everyone. I think either she was directly involved or her husband, otherwise the friend wouldn’t have all our emails:) so it’s pretty normal to ask. Hugs!
Join some local mom groups. Huge for my sanity