For any desi person that still lives at home with your parents, how do you deal with the emotional abuse and yelling from your parent(s)? As I get older, it’s affecting me more now. Any tips to not let it affect me and ways to maintain happiness? I am caregiver so I’m not going to move out.

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You should tell them to give you respect. Emotional abuse and yelling is not acceptable

Walk away mid yelling. Let them know that you’re only going to continue the conversation when they stop yelling. Keep drawing those boundaries

unfortunately the more you try to avoid them more bitterness & stress will develop.

I cry and let it out. Sometimes I hurt myself in front of them so they can see how they are affecting me.

I’m sorry you’re going through this but Do not hurt yourself, please. Seek someone to talk to.

Why not get your own place?

I don’t encourage any kind of destructive discussion by responding to comments or acknowledging them at all. I let them know that if they want to talk through something, they can approach me with respect.

Also I help take care of my family as well but they know I’m completely willing to leave and live on my own. I don’t rely on them for anything so they try to not push me too much.

I know it seems like moving out is not an option but the situation won’t really change. Your parents won’t change. Either you deal with this somehow indefinitely (which I wouldn’t recommend) or you create some space and take care of them from a distance.

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