For M, when you date are you now trying to date younger so that you don’t need to try for kids right away or is there some urgency for you to want children fairly soon as well?

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Literally every female on dating apps

I think I did this unintentionally I think.

My gf is 5 years younger than me.

Before we were regular, I went on a bunch of dates with people in their 20s & 30s. It turned me off if a first date turned into what I felt was an interrogation over having kids, a serious relationship or "what I was really looking for" and that almost exclusively came from people in their 30s.

So, no, I didn't intentionally try to date people younger than me, but I did intentionally stick with someone who wasn't pushing the gas pedal and it appears that that's correlated with age.

I know that women have a biological clock so I don't blame them for trying to not waste time. I think in defining all that stuff up front, they're doing the right thing, but I'm not in hurry like they are so I'll stick with someone who's not going to rush me. If that person is 25 or 35, I don't really care.

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Are there scenarios in which men would date with the intention of wanting to have kids soon? 😀

Huh

I have kids so look for women who don’t want or have their own

It’s a consideration now, when before, it wasn’t

Well for me, I don't want to have kids when I'm too old because connecting with kids goes out the window the bigger the age gap.

Taking that into account I generally date women that are at that point in their lives where they are ready for that stage. I've noticed that number ranges from 26ish to 30 plus, barring one exception with a 38 year old who hadn't given it much thought. 🤔

I never thought I’d run into this constraint by age 30+ and so didn’t solve for it. Spent my time ‘leaning in’ at work.

But I understand now why women 35+ opt to be single mothers by choice, there is no other choice 😅

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