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For some reason, I have been putting off going to a therapist. I don’t know how to get myself to go. Maybe I’m scared? I am quite certain that I have severe anxiety (including to see a therapist!). I am afraid of what anti-anxiety medicines might feel like. Anyone have advice on how I can overcome this rut? Since the meds are a big fear of mine, any experiences with how they make you feel is much appreciated!

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You need some weed. Lots and lots of weed.


Just to be clear, the weed is to cope with being at Deloitte. Not for the anxiety.


I was afraid of meds too & too anxious to talk to a therapist. In my annual checkup, I basically just broke down to my doctor because I was so sad & hesitantly discussed my anxiety & depression and we talked about drugs & therapy. I got a list of therapy recommenders as well as an SSRI prescription. I was skeptical of getting “hooked”. Anyway, 5 weeks later on the meds and I feel amazing. I can’t believe I even debated it. My anxiety was so bad but I feel so chill now, happier & can function better around others. I still don’t feel constable talking to a therapist but maybe I will in the future. I can’t give you medical advice but talk to your primary care doctor. Meds aren’t all bad :)


In the same boat (minus the heavy anxiety). Try a therapist first and see if CBT and other non-drug methods help. It’s a hard first step, I think especially since we are used to being in control.

Try not to self diagnose, and trust in a professional to help guide you.


Hi! Try a virtual therapist so you can call and do video rather than drive to an office.


Sounds like you actually need a psychiatrist for meds and a therapist for weekly talk therapy sessions. For finding the therapist, I would say to start with your benefits plan and download a spreadsheet of those who are in network. Then filter filter filter (location, ratings, etc). Then look at the providers’ website to see if you jive. Then email like 3-4 therapists and ask for what you want long term versus short term counseling, what is your availability, virtual or in person, etc. then see who fits all your criteria! Give it a few weeks with them and if you don’t like them, email 3-4 more and try again. Therapists are humans too so they also have quirks and belief systems, etc. it’s fanfuckingtastic when you find the right one!


Not going fuels the anxiety. In the short term you benefit, long term you suffer. You have to break the cycle if you want to see change. Schedule your first appointment tomorrow if you want to stop living in your head.


The meds are great, I’ve taken a low dose of Zoloft at several points for anxiety and loved the way it makes me feel. I sleep better and my anxious thoughts get a lot quieter.

To me, therapy is the hard part 😬


I see a psychiatrist that gives me the anxiety meds that keep my symptoms under control while I’m in therapy (a separate therapist) working on the root causes. Also find regular exercise, meditation and healthy eating helpful.
You also need to be patient with yourself, give yourself time, try different things and you’ll eventually feel better.


I second weed. I also had a difficult time seeing a therapist but now I see three. Thank you BCG benefits.

DM me if you ever want to talk. Or if you’re in Chicago and want recommendations (on weed or therapy).


Best decision I ever made…just do it.


I encourage you to take the leap! It is nerve wracking for sure to open yourself up to a stranger, but just like it’s our job to consult, it is their job to help with mental health. Going to a therapist doesn’t mean you have to go on meds! You may not need them and perhaps can learn to control the anxiety with the help of the therapist. And if they do suggest medication, it is still up to you to decide if you want to and you can explain your fear and anxiety around it. I guarantee you’re not the only one to feel this way and you’re not alone. I started therapy a few months ago and I don’t regret it for a second. It has helped so much! Good luck on your mental health journey :)


I am struggling with anxiety too. I suggest speaking to your therapist first and see if medications suits your need.


It really depends on the meds you take, and what your brain chemistry is like. Some meds work great for some and terribly for others. Highly recommend finding a psychiatrist you trust.

Personally, weed is terrible for my anxiety and I avoid it like the plague. I’m on Lexapro daily, which helps with both anxiety and depression. And when I have panic attacks I take lorazepam, which is a benzo. It honestly just kind of relaxes me to the point where sometimes I just want to go to sleep. It doesn’t feel distressing or unnatural, just relaxing. I will say that after I take the lorazepam I tend to feel quite tired but otherwise I’ve never had any bad side effects.


I go to biweekly therapy for trauma/anxiety and I don’t take medication. However, I have been able to create “tools” for whenever I feel overwhelmed or can’t turn my brain “off.” It’s all about finding what does and doesn’t work for you. The process isn’t linear, but wanted to offer that perspective too.


You can tell them you don’t want medication as a treatment. In my experience it’s hard to find a good head doc - so you may have to shop around. With that said, know what you want out of the situation going in. I cope better if I know why I react to things a certain way. Some people just want someone to listen. So based on 1-2 sessions with someone and the kind of feedback they give, you can tell if it’s going to be right or not.


Hey OP, good on you for even thinking of getting help. I did several months back. I didn’t need medication, but I did and do need to talk to someone weekly. EY includes this in our health care.

So maybe you won’t have to get meds. Good luck and proud of you (like you worked at EY proud). :) Best of luck to whatever you decide!


I struggle with severe anxiety and depression. I saw a therapist for years and it has definitely helped but I was always afraid of going on medication. It genuinely took me years to get over the fear but now I’ve been on low dose Zoloft since Nov 2020. It doesn’t eliminate everything for you which is why therapy is always important to have but the medication helps my lows not be as low


Avoid a Benzo prescription.


I worked with an anxiety counselor/ coach this year to help determine the best treatment plan. I can share her info if you’d like. I highly recommend someone who is CBT based. You may not even need meds but you won’t know until you explore the plethora of treatment options. There are many and part of the process is finding what works specifically for you.


Think of it this way - if you were diabetic and needed insulin everyday would you consider yourself “hooked” on insulin? That’s how my doctor explained it to me.


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