For the last couple of months I’ve been dreading going to work. So bad that there have been days I purposely went to work late to limit my time there. This job is draining and I don’t feel (contd)

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OP, I’m sorry you feel this way, I’ve been there too. Maybe you can identify what it is that bothers you the most and see if it’s in your control to change it. For example, in my situation it was a mixed, but mainly because I spent a lot of time on the beach and that made me feel useless, so I transferred to another office and so far my utilization is above 90%.

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I get paid enough to deal with the level of stress I endure each day. Classic golden cuffs syndrome, I dont feel I can leave because I do need the money. But I shouldn’t hate work THIS much. How to deal?

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Been there OP - I think the first step is to nail down exactly what about work is stressing you out. Is it specifically this team or a person on this team? Is it that you don't like the nature of this work? Is it the hours? Once you nail it down, you can solve for it. For me it was the team/people. Moved to a different team where I feel appreciated and it made a world of difference. I am actually enjoying work for the first time in many years, and I didn't need to compromise on salary. You may find your solution to be to move to another team or another company or maybe another field of work. Or maybe it's something that can be solved by putting boundaries at work. But I am sure you can solve it only after you know exactly what is the problem.

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This is just my experience and I’ve been in this industry for about a year now. The first several months I was stuck on a high-burn project in an industry I didn’t care about and people who didn’t care about my well-being. I’m finally in the industry I wanted to be in from the beginning so it’s a lot easier for me to deal with the long hours and sometimes horrible people because I care about and see the impact of my work. Idk if that helps but just offering a different perspective. We’re here for you!

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Thank y’all for responding. I actually had an anxiety attack today because... stress. I definitely feel it’s the work + the team. They’re not bad people, it’s just a lot to deal with and draining dealing with 20+ people day in and day out. I’m seriously thinking about taking time away to seriously reconsider my work and career.

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