For the males: how do you accept the fact that you spend more on your girl than she does on you? (Mainly money but also energy and time) - answer only if you can relate

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Only money, and I feel GFs generally spend more time and energy if they’re really into you. Although it also depends on one’s attachment style, as mine has been avoidant.
Also I have always made more plus I actually enjoy taking care of my lady in joint activities 🤷


How much more do you spend? Like whats the split?

Kind of agree with Google. Yes, the gentleman thing is you spend more money. Red flag if you’re also putting in more energy, though


Good advice google. Thank you. Will try to mention it tomorrow and she what she says…

Withdraw your energy and communicate maturely what you’re feeling


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