For those of you in a bf/gf relationship who always pays for meals when going out on a date? Also should the guy be the one to always pay or should the check be split?

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Split down the middle but while I preach this, I'm a guy and I still pay most of the time.

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Girl here! When my boyfriend and I first started dating he would insist on paying for everything which really bothered me. I told him that we were in a 50/50 relationship and should take turns. Communicate with your partner early on!!!

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Guy pays early on, in a serious relationship should be more even split.

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this. we trade off now unless soneone picks something expensive then they pay (e.g. he wanted to go to a steakhouse)

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My bf and I take turns paying. We’ll sometimes split it if we’re kind of tight on money. On special occasions though he’ll offer to pay (anniversary, birthday dinner, when we double date).

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Also a girl, we've always split it down the middle and lately we take turns or understand if someone isn't getting paid that week. We've helped each other out financially both ways and were always sure to talk about it.

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Good woman right here! ^

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If it’s an actual relationship it should 50/50.

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BT1: You make double and resent paying??? Shame on you!

Director 1: You are getting hosed! Maybe you should hookup with BT1??

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It's my personal preference that the men pay

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I don't think the guy needs to pay for everything. I've set that standard straight with my gf very early and she's accepted it. But while she's still in school, I have been fronting most of the bills and even helping her pay for school, car payments etc and she plans on paying me back in full. She will pay when she can and even if I don't need her too, it's a nice gesture.

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SM1 is dropping knowledge. Clearly a well thought out response and very smart reasoning.

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I pay for most things bc we would never do anything otherwise. I make about double my bf. money is a sensitive issue for him so I don’t make it a thing but occasionally it bothers me that I pay for most.

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I paid for everything when we started bc gf was in school. Now it’s a few years later and I’m still paying for most meals. And gf makes more $$ than I do.

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I like to split or trade off. Or they pay the bill and I pay the tip. I don’t like feeling dependent on someone else, or that they think I’m using them as a meal ticket. I’ll let them pay if they insist but then I’m paying for the next meal. (By the way I’m a female)

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My bf proactively pays 80% of the time. we’re in a long term rship. I offer to pay occasionally/buy small gifts/special events like his bday. Our salaries are comparable. He paid when we first started dating too

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Guy should pay until relationship gets more serious.

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Well can't blame them totally right? If we stop giving and giving, it changes the dynamic no matter how bitter the message we are sending out

take turns

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We split everything unless its like a treat or something I wanna do that im asking her to come with me or try it out

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I like the guy to pay early on, but once we’re really dating, we alternate. Exception was when boyfriend made way more money than I did— he offered to pay the majority of the time.

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Defaults to 50/50 unless one of us picks up the check first :)

I don't date much but what happens when a cheque arrives and neither party reaches for it?

Ah the classic, Dine & Dash & Smash scenario

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