For those quarantined with their SO, how is everyone managing their time with them? I’m struggling as I work from 9AM to 6PM and gf is an elementary school teacher (so currently not working) - CONT’D

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Just tell her. If you’re at the point of living together you really need to be at a point where you’re comfortable communicating personality traits and needs. If you have introverted tendencies and need personal time you have to say that, she’s not going to guess on her own and is only going to get annoyed with you if she doesn’t know

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wants to hang out together when I get offline. She’s great and I feel like a bad person for saying I need my own space to decompress. I’ve never lived with anyone I’ve been romantically involved with so looking for some tips on how to communicate this without hurting her feelings.

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Been a while since I lived the 9-6 dream, but I am currently living with my SO who typically works 3-4 days per week and wants to spend time together when I’m off. It was certainly a challenge the first couple weeks of quarantine since I typically used to decompress alone in my hotel room. I think the best way to communicate it is to just be honest about your needs and align on expectations. Be up front with it rather than being upset once you get off work. Not communicating what you want won’t be sustainable through the quarantine

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Tell her you need personal space and time to decompress, SO THAT you can be fully present with her once you recharge

Make sure she sees this as a need of yours and not an attack on her “neediness” (using quotation mark because I don’t really think it is neediness based on your description but am struggling to find the right word). Frame it as “it would really help me if I can get some me time”, admit your own vulnerability

If possible, set expectation on when you WILL be available for her so she knows she’s not just being dismissed and has something to look forward to

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Op - communication is key here and you have a great opportunity to use it. Talk to her, also be mindful of her need - when you are with her, be really with her. Good luck!

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My hubby was laid off so we talk throughout the day. He likes to help me with my work so he does administrative assistant stuff. After work we make dinner together have funny conversations watch a tv show or movie together. When we need our space we retreat to separate rooms to do our own thing.

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So you don’t talk to her from 9 am to 6pm but then need more time away from her? I’m thinking this is not a match made in heaven

I’m this way too and I’m pretty extroverted.

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My parents said they’re practicing spouse-al distancing

To be serious - I actually like my wife, so this isn't a difficult time for us. We hang out with our kids, joke with each other a lot (we always did, but it's dialed up to 11 now), enjoy an alcoholic beverage or 7 once the kids are asleep, try new sex positions, etc.

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