For those who already have a baby - I (36f) just had a baby 6 weeks ago, and my wife (33F) is now back at work (WFH) and I’m still on leave. Since I have the baby all day and get up with her all night, my wife basically “takes over” baby duty when she stops working. The problem is that within an HOUR she has lost all patience with the baby. She gets frustrated so quickly if the baby is crying and will say things like “I’m just going to let her cry since nothing im doing helps” (cont)

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Yikes. Please do step in in the moment and then talk to her when things are calm. I totally understand we all get overwhelmed but this is how accidental deaths happen when people lose control and shake babies. Stay strong and help figure out how you both can get some more self care in.

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If you can afford it, get all the help you can! These transitions can be rough and all three of your well beings are at stake here.

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Can it be postpartum depression contributing to her irritability?

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PPD/PPA is not specific to the gestating parent.

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And she’ll say things like “shut the f*ck up!” If the baby is struggling. I feel like I need to step in and take over but I also need the break. She (my wife) wasn’t so impatient when we both were on leave. How can I broach this?

OP PPD for the partner is 100% a possibility

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