For those who are in love and in a long term relationship, how many are “boring” or “stable” vs. “exciting still” or feels like a forever honeymoon period? Is the latter stuff even possible?

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The older I get the less I care about exciting. I’m too tired. I absolutely adore my husband, feel very much in love, and am so thankful for our stable and mundane life. It would probably look boring to many people, including 25 year old me.

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My SO and I have been together 3.5 years. I love how stable it is and I do still feel excitement even though it’s a bit different than when we first met

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