For those who met your SO online, did you feel a spark right on the first few dates? Do you go on more dates to let the attraction grow even if in the first two dates you are not particularly attracted to the person? How do you know you want to pursue the dating relationship further? I’m the kind of person who needs time to get to know the other person, so I’ll need more than 2 dates to make a decision, even if I don’t feel the spark.

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Not right away, maybe 2-3 dates - now very happily married for 15 years ❤️

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I felt the spark on the second date, especially when he kissed me 😍. Can’t say there was spark on the first date; in fact I didn’t think I’d hear from him again lol

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Yes, I felt the spark right away! No, I don't go on more dates to let attraction grow if I know I'm not attracted to them, mostly because my attraction stems from them having a specific personality/sense of humor and us having natural chemistry, and more dates doesn't change that compatibility in my experience. I know I want to pursue it further because it just feels "right"; it feels natural, I like spending time with them and who I am around them, we have fun, and our lifestyles are compatible. Sorry if this isn't helpful because it seems like I might take things a bit faster than you, but just wanted to offer my perspective :)

Sparks right away, otherwise I wouldn’t entertain a second date 🤣

At least a certain level of spark I would say, probably not head over heels but some attraction.

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