For those who settled for someone who wasn’t the one, why did you do it?

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All marriages involve some degree of “settling,” whether people admit it to themselves or not. The idea of a “perfect” person is a disney/ rom com fantasy… real life is more complicated than that.

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They seemed good on paper. Like I SHOULD want them more than I did. Like if I didn’t try, there was something wrong with ME.

I regret settling more because I broke their heart than anything else. They were kind, accomplished, ambitious, successful and smart. But they deserved someone who loved them wholeheartedly, not because it was what was expected. I don’t regret walking away from that relationship. I regret starting it because I hurt a good person.

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That sounds rough K4. Ending relationships really really suck, but I feel like he would appreciate the honesty in the long run if that’s true 😔

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That’s my worst nightmare. I’d rather be single

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Nah @BDO she doesn’t want me anymore

No such thing as “the one.”

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I feel the choice of word settling makes it sound terrible. Reality is we settle everyday in various small and big ways whether with boss, parents or friends etc. No one is perfect and one way to go about is to focus on all the positive things that make you want to be with that person! As a society we are slowly becoming more judgemental and more inward focused.

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We need a 360 degree feedback system for relationships as well :)

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I fear that I’m going to do this 😫

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Right there with ya. I'm having no luck so far, and I can see myself settling for fear having to be single forever.

I agree that you settle in one way or another regardless…or better word is prob compromise. I have a hard time determining what is most important for me. For example, I’ve dated guys that I get along with in nearly every way but have minimal sexual attraction to/sex isn’t good. There are other guys that I have had great physical connection with but I just can’t deal with other things about them (anger, can’t communicate,etc) I need a weighting system 😂 I’m starting to feel like I need to just accept that I won’t have great physical relationship with someone and have someone stable in life in other areas (beliefs, career, morals, etc).

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Am curious, what are you attracted to?

FOMO

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Has money

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And I’d do it again

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I think for women, timeline is an issue. For men, scarcity - a lot of dudes think “this is the best I’m gonna get, better sell out for her”

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Only insecure ones.

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Didn’t know better… divorced 10 yrs later.
All those 🚩 never get better. It all gets worse over time so thred carefully.

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We want to believe that things and people change but most of the time they don’t… Hang in there, time will heal.

Divorced a couple of years later.

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Never ending question for a bissexual... at some point you just have to make choices! Maybe there is no magic princess or prince, but a good, honest, funny person by your side can really make you happy! It's a journey

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Also fear that I’m going to do this. On the verge of a breakup but we’re trying to work it out.

Kind of did it

Convenience

So glad I didn’t. Worst break up of my life but it was the right thing to do. She was super vindictive at first. Wanted me to hurt and suffer. She never apologized for that and then months later told me she was still in love with me. I wish the best for her, and truly hope she’s doing well, but yeah no.

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