For those who split expenses proportionally with their SO is this based off of net or gross? My SO is in a high tax state and I'm not, so although they earn >65% more, after taxes and deductions, I take home more net. Should we be using gross or net?

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If you’re not living together, what expenses are you splitting regularly? Dates?

I would say that there’s no “right” way to do it. Everyone puts different weight on a variety of factors, so it comes down to how it feels to you and your SO.

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I would say net - I mean they don’t really keep the tax. But damn that’s a large difference due to tax policy. I hope they have a good reason to stay there 😂

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Is that usually how people do it?

Definitely net. It’s about how much disposable income each of you actually has access to lol who cares how much each of you pays in taxes

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Most people would do gross but I also don't know anyone who splits expenses and doesn't have the same taxes (since they live together)

Net makes more sense

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Net for sure. I think a much fairer benchmark is based on take home pay after tax & deductions, it’s not really fair to base it on pre-tax as it’s not up to them how much tax they pay.

We did gross pay when we split like this

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