(Former consultant) Hi Ladies - I know we talk a lot about a glass ceiling re: our gender and related perceptions, but has anyone thought that being attractive, smart and social has held them back? Sometimes it feels like I have to work harder to prove I’m articulate and produce great work for new teammates to come around. I sometimes feel like I can’t show up as my full self bc I don’t want others around me to feel intimidated (I realize this may seem like a shallow post). Advice?

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Not at all. I think being smart, attractive and social has helped me more than anything.

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MCK, completely agree. I’d also encourage ppl to be honest with themselves if they don’t feel like they are moving up as quickly or getting the opportunities they want. To dismiss it as people being intimidated by you isn’t providing you much room for growth. I’ve found that as long as you are humble and hard working, those three traits will get you very far, not hold you back.

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No. If anything, being attractive has privilege

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It’s held me back in dating (I’m not intimidating. Men are intimidated BY me, and that’s on them bc I’m super friendly and nice) but I don’t currently feel like it’s held me back that much professionally.
However, I have had people question my credentials because they think I’m too young to have accomplished what I have. I’m 28, not 18, so idfk what’s up with that — I’ve learned to use that as a red flag about the company culture and not take it personally, and now I’m at a company where my credentials and expertise are not questioned. Feels amazing.

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C1…I feel like we would be friends! SA1, ugh - I know the feeling (mainly bc it takes a good hour for me to get to 2.0, so when I run around as 1.0, I def get treated as such. And it makes me giggle).

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I didn’t really feel this way in consulting but at Amazon I work with all men, highly technical engineers. Maybe it’s just a case of fitting in. They only get my jokes 50% of the time. It’s so tough! I don’t even wear makeup anymore.

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