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Found out this week an old friend is now having a kid. This person is a good human but for a variety of reasons, they aren’t so great when it comes to anything romantic with the opposite sex (myself, mutual friends, etc). They managed to get pregnant with someone lives across the country from their old neighborhood. Instead of being happy for them, I hate that the only thing I can think is this will always come to mind taking safe sex precautions knowing that it was definitely unplanned.

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I’ve read this so many times and I still don’t understand what you’re saying.

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Don’t have sex because you will get pregnant and die. Don’t have sex in the missionary position, don’t have sex standing up, just don’t do it, ok, promise?

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The correct answer was actually “Ok, now everybody take some rubbers”

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You don’t know if it was unplanned by both parties or what was represented about birth control either though. I’ve known some desperate people out there.

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What does being romantic have to do with being a parent?

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Sorry, trying to purposely be a little vague because I think this person is on Fishbowl. Essentially someone I considered a friend but is now more of an acquaintance (have had multiple friends date/flirt/hook up with this person in the past) is now having a kid with a partner who pretty clearly was a one-night stand. They live in different states now, don’t seem like to be dating before but recently did a baby shower/gender reveal/something similar event together. I feel like a terrible person for hearing about this happening on social media and have taken this scenario more as a warning in my personal life to not be irresponsible with birth control. I should be happy for them 🤡

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