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Fresh transfer failed. My husband and I have decided we are done. The universe doesn’t want me to be a mother. I’ve finally accepted it and moved on. I just wish somebody had told me this would be my future as a little girl.

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Wish I could tell you something hopeful OP, but this process is hard. Hope you have comfort and clarity whatever you decide, whether it be taking a break, continuing, going another route to become a parent, or stopping entirely.

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I’m really sorry. I hope you heal emotionally and physically. ❤️❤️❤️

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I'm praying for comfort for you and your husband.

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I'm really sorry, OP. Sending virtual love your way ❤️

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Have you thought about adoption?

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Hi. So hate to tell you this but stats on fresh transfers are awful. Why did you go that route instead of a frozen transfer? Your feelings right now are 110% valid. I know because I went through over 10 various rounds of IVF, transfers, donor transfers and the like. You CAN be a mom still. It might not be that perfect path you dreamed of as a little girl but you absolutely can. If you still want to continue the IVF path I’d suggest finding a doctor that will put you on a plan that is more successful. None of them are going to work all the time (uh, I did over 10), but fresh is clearly proven to be on the lower end. Take the time you need to grieve and then decide what you want to do!! Sending you love and a bottle or two of wine ❤️🍷🍷

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I hear ya. If you ever do decide to transfer those two... make sure they go over quality with you. I’m assuming you did not do PGD? If you decide to do another cycle, feel free to reach out and good luck to you!

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I am so sorry. I hope you can take the time you need to feel better emotionally knowing that the doctors don’t have the final say in what is meant for you. My prayer is that you and your husband have the desires of your heart answered. Sending love 💕

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All the best OP - this is one of life's hardest burden's to bear.

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Sending love your way❤️, really sorry to hear.

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I am so sorry ❤ be kind to yourself, take time to heal and then decide on the next steps.

Thank you so much everyone!!

A lady in Israel had transferred 92 embryos before becoming mom.. the deals that take time to crack are the sweetest.

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Keep trying... visit CNY or Coopers.. 4000 bucks per cycle

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