Friend delayed her wedding due to coronavirus concerns. Was going to be in September of this year and now it’s going to be September 2021. She wants the bridal party to ‘stay excited’ though and host bimonthly events (virtually for now) in the meantime starting now and leading up to it. I feel bad but I’m already incredibly exhausted with work post-round 2 of layoffs and dealing with my family. I almost want to bow out of being a bridesmaid...

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Wow. Tell her that no one else cares this much that she’s signing a contract with someone and everyone will get hype in 2021.

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That’s unreasonable. Maybe when it’s 2 months out from the new wedding date, but bi monthly events for the next 15 months is insane.

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You need a new friend

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Eff that. I’d straight out tell her you’re happy to be in the bridal party but you’ve got a lot on your plate right now without taking on another reoccurring commitment (you can leave out the part about this being completely batshit).

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Interesting approach. We are taking the opposite. if we have to cancel (October wedding) were just gonna tell everyone to F off and get married at the courthouse 😂😂

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We got married at the courthouse with just 2 witnesses. Then had a big party the next day with an open bar and 8 or 9 courses of food. Everyone was told to wear jeans and have fun without the formality of a wedding. 4 years later and people are still telling us it's their favorite celebration. Nothing was there for us to stress about either, which made it better for my husband and me.

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Bi-monthly? 🥴 sometimes even 1 bachelorette party is too much lol. I’d venture to guess that plan will fizzle out soon enough - I’m sure other people feel similar to you but don’t want to speak up either. Depending on how close you are to the bride, I’d join the first one or two and then play it by ear. It’s totally valid to be busy/exhausted right now (and always) but try to balance being a good friend too. No harm in being honest and telling her it’s too much either

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+1 to the fizzle out. Most of you probably don’t want to hurt her feelings and will join 1-2.

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Approach her with understanding that she’s also reasonably very upset and probably is leaning on her friends to get her through. Bimonthly events are a bit much, but I’m sure after the first one or two it’ll fizzle out. You can also say you can’t commit to the events but will definitely be there in the weeks or months leading up to the actual wedding and try to show your support for her in other ways.

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This ^ She’s your friend, she’s probably really upset at postponing her wedding. Be honest, be compassionate, and know that the situation gets better for both of you although it may not seem like it in the moment.

Tell her she’s being unreasonable. I get it- it sucks to have to postpone your wedding but everyone is dealing with life (personal, professional, and global events). You do you. If she doesn’t get it, bow out and don’t feel bad about it for a sec

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Yikes... so much nope

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It sounds like your gonna have to stay excited for a year and a half

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That’s insane. Do not feel you have to participate in all that.

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What?! Bimonthly events to stay excited?! Won’t having an event 2 month prior to the big day get you amp’ed enough. If not - you need more fun ppl in your life

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This seems expensive - it’s already expensive to be part of a bridal party let alone doing events with the group that much

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No. She does not get to throw a year-long celebration for herself. If I were you I’d drop out now, mostly because this is a huge flag for continued bizarre behavior for OVER A YEAR and god, who has the time?!

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W. T. Actual. Eff. This person is presumably an adult who has convinced another adult to legally bind themselves together? God help the future spouse.

Tell her to get used to married life for a year then instead of living in Hollywood / Disney for a year. Perhaps she should organise events for her significant other vs. Random virtual events?

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