Friend of 15 years moved her boyfriend into her apartment… she doesn’t see anything wrong with it. I’m too old for this. For other reasons I can get out of the lease. Would I be the worst person ever if I just left mid lease?

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You mean she moved him into the apt you share? Did she have a conversation with you about it first? Is it a permanent move? It's pretty disrespectful on her end if she did it without discussing the bounds of it with you or asking your permission. I'd leave.

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If you can break it without penalty and don’t want to live with him, then go. Your comfort and safety should be your priority - without apology.

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^ this

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How is it *her* apartment if you and her are both on the lease? A little confused.

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You’re right it’s our apartment. Freudian slip lol.

Leave expeditiously she’s really trippin.

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It might be against the rental agreement to move someone in who isn’t on the lease. Maybe try to have them sign him onto the lease as a sublet to you or something.

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Make him replace you on the lease so you don’t pay anything to leave

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Save yourself the headache and awkwardness of living with a couple. If you have the opportunity to move back in with your parents you can use this to save. Ppl cant be making unilateral decisions about a shared living space.
You can help her find a subletter, but dont feel guilty for leaving.

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Leave. The disrespect on her part is unreal.

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Thanks everyone. To add context he is staying here very regularly so I may have been somewhat dramatic by saying she moved him in but yeah he’s here many many nights per week. We spoke about it and she doesn’t see anything wrong because he staying in her room primarily but I just had zero intention of living with a man and as a introvert it’s extremely bothersome.

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Yeahhh that's where you went wrong. Never say you don't care if a bf sleeps over because in actuality you're not fine with him sleeping over and using the shared bathroom all the time. You need to revisit the conversation and say you're only fine with two nights a week or whatever number you're fine with.

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As others have said, leave but, before you do—get yourself removed from the lease to release yourself from any responsibility tied to the apartment. Consider your part of the deposit a wash and split.

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That’s fine. Leave the apartment and the friendship.

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My friend just got back from the holidays then vacation. Behavior has been different but we’re not speaking. I just want to leave but feel so guilty.

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