Friend says "can I date your ex / someone youve gone on a few dates with if you do not want him?". Is this appropriate?

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Yes

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Haha hey at least they asked

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Two different things. A few dates, sure. Person you were in a relationship with? Uh no.

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Oh my. If the ex was super super hot, I can get other friends to fill the void.

If it makes you uncomfortable, you can definitely express your opinion and if that friend respects your feelings, they may not date your ex. But at the end of the day it’s your friends decision since you can’t really control who they can or can’t date

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Tell your friend “Yes, but acknowledge there are reasons they are now your ex”

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Depends, was it a few dates or did y’all date for a while? If just a short fling with a few dates who cares, if y’all dated for a year I wouldn’t be cool with it

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Yes. You should be grateful he/she asked. A great friend. Technically, you don’t really have a right to control this if you’re no longer with your ex/someone.

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An “ex” versus someone you went on a few dates with are two different positions on the spectrum of dating.

If this is my actual friend they would never date my ex but I know everyone is different and there are times when we can’t help who we fall in love with. I’d probably object to an actual friend dating my ex but I don’t care if someone dates a person I went on <3-4 dates with.

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Depends if they are an ex or just someone you went on a few dates with - very different things.

As long as you aren’t still together you’ve no right or reason for dictating who this person can and can’t date.

It’s appropriate. You don’t own people and certainly not people who you aren’t even dating anymore.

Well, at least she asked for permission.

You should tell your friend you would totally still be together if it weren’t for, you know....that STD he gave you. 🤷🏼‍♂️

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