FTM waiting for the kid to be born. Noob question- do moms wake up the kids for night time feeds? My mom says there’s no need to do that as I used to sleep through the night mostly and she says you shouldn’t wake up a sleeping kid.

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Pediatrician / nurse at hospital will tell you to wake baby every three hours to feed until they reach a certain weight. I don’t remember what that weight was. But when we got my first kid home from the hospital we had a night nanny who would come a few nights a week and she looked at us like we were insane to suggest she wake baby to eat when she tries to sleep longer at night. My take: during day definitely wake and feed at least every three hours. At night, if your baby is “healthy” let them sleep as long as they want/can

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Our Ped told us to never wake a sleeping baby. We would do dream feeds to extend her sleep a bit longer and it really helped. She's two now and started sleeping through the night (6:30pm to 6:30am) at 10 weeks so we clearly did something right!

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We did dream feeds before we went to bed and it stretched them through most of the night

I never woke up babies at night but didn’t let any daytime sleep exceed 3 hours.

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My milk took a couple days to come in and baby was losing weight so I was supposed to wake her every 3 hrs to feed until she reached her birth weight again which took like 3-4 days. Afterwards she would wake up when hungry (every 2-4 hrs)

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Same here

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Depends on the size of the baby usually. Mine was NICU and small, so weight gain was important. Usually once they hit their birth weight you’ll get the ok to stop waking them. I think up to you if you follow that regardless

After that, you can keep a schedule or let the baby dictate that 🤷🏼‍♀️. We started implementing a schedule (we do moms on call) during the day around 6-7 weeks (waking to feed every 3 hrs, never waking after bedtime) and our baby thrives on routine and has been sleeping through the night since 10 weeks

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Also I would add: take your mom’s baby advice with a grain of salt. My mom raised 4 of us and did an amazing job, but she did it 30 yrs ago and a LOT of the safe recommendations are different now. Like, for every baby thing you could think of. Count on your pediatrician and your own research and make your own decisions and don’t let anyone, including your mom, tell you what you’ve decided is wrong

If you have this problem consider yourself very lucky 🤣 in general I think it would only be something to think about for the first month anyways.

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Yes! Lol. Worry about this problem if you actually have it.....

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Thank you BCG1 and C1. Yup I’m not leaning towards waking her up to feed.

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Just go off ped recommendation. If bb is not gaining weight you may have to. But yes, generally Do. Not. Wake. A. Sleeping. Baby. <3

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Unless there’s a medical reason like failure to thrive, I’m a firm believer in trusting nature and that baby will for sure let you know when she’s hungry :)

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Absolutely with what was said above. Really it comes down to only if your baby has a medical reason for it - e.g. underweight or allergies or something like that.

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Agree with the comments here. Unless baby is at low weight/ not gaining at healthy pace or other feeding issues (e.g, my baby was premie so didn’t have that option), babies have strong lungs compared to their tiny frame and are not afraid to use them. They will let ya know when they are hungry 😩

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Yes..sometimes I wonder how such small beings can make so much noise

You dont have to wake up the baby because he/she will wake you up. Newborn sleep cycle is very short about 1 hour and only about 20 mins of deep sleep. Rest is REM. As they get older they will transition and have sleep cycles just like adults. That happened to my son at about 6 months, when he was able to sleep through the night.

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Dream feeds worked great for us. He wouldn’t be fully asleep but around ten pm we would wake him just to eat...that said my guy woke for a bottle every night for first year and a half....so I’m not a great resource :)

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I have twins so we woke them to keep on a schedule and that worked great for us. Came to say please listen to your doc- they will let you know best path for your little one. Our parents are well meaning but have completely forgotten most of small details, also advice has changed (eg I slept on my stomach in 1981 in US and now back is best —- my mom made a bunch of comments about how that doesn’t make sense for vomiting, but it’s about SIDS and is the current best practice).
Good luck and congratulations!

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We were told that back is better for spit up and vomiting as well. A lot has changed since we were kids ourselves. Second this

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If you want to be able to get some good sleep long -term, try 'sleep training' at 4.5 or 5 months. I would also advise against dream feeds. They don't work for everyone and can cause your baby to have subsequent unnecessary wakes

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Thank you moms! Looks like it really depends on the baby and her weight.

My ped only told me to wake to keep until he got back to birth weight (which he did before 2 weeks). After he looked on track for that at 8 days old, I stopped worrying.

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