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#Genders Women, do you find it difficult to work with men? Men, do you find it difficult to work with women? If there is something you absolutely hate and would like to change when working with the other gender, what would it be? PS: I'm sorry for focusing on male/female genders in the question, but it's valid for anyone having different experience working with other genders than theirs.

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This is a good question. In my opinion, when men and women Go Wrong in the workplace, it tends to happen in distinct ways. When men Go Wrong, they get over competitive and are constantly trying to elbow each other out of the way, and throw each other under the bus. This manifests itself as stealing each other's ideas, undermining each other behind each other backs and kissing up to whoever the perceived power broker is. I have worked with guys who acted like Roman gladiators when they got a score or a promotion, but were sulky and backbiting like children whenever anyone else got a win. That stuff always annoyed me. When women Go Wrong, I think its rarely like the men, it's more often a case of any work disagreements being taken horribly personally and then grudges borne forever. You said that thing in that meeting that time and now you will be hated forever. You will get the death stare and the snub when attempting to make small talk at the Christmas party 2 years later. That, and the forming of cliques, to aid in the hating of those who must be hated. I should mention, I've met plenty of women through the years who can't stand the clique-creators either. I think some people are wired up that way and some aren't. Some of us peaked in school and are trying to recreate it, and some of us didn't. I should also mention that I've never seen any correlation between gender and professionalism. I don't prefer to work with any particular group of any of one but I prefer to work with people who like the work itself, and aren't using the job as an extension of their social lives.

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I’ve had issues with both. Generally speaking, the issues I’ve had come from a combination of age + gender. Meaning older men and women act very differently than their younger peers. Once you get below 45, i don’t see gender as a differentiator. There are cool peeps and their are assholes. For ex - worked with a 60s male who was incredibly sexist, another in his 50s who requested that i add keeping the kitchen tidy to my list of duties (was a consultant), and another in that range who would make the most bizarre comments about the appearance of women in the office. This group also seems to work differently when they are in ‘management’ and expect that they do nothing but micro manage people. They often don’t actually understand the work, how it gets done, or think logically. For ex - a mid level manager in his 60s would send work back because he preferred certain colors or font, meanwhile the projects were on fire and needed leadership to get involved and be almost actively avoid those duties, shirking them to his direct reports who were not in the right position to be calling execs to the carpet for delays. Females in that age range tended to be stuck in their ways and opposed to change, but often more backstabbing and manipulative. They’d act like your friend and while trying to throw you under the bus. They sheltered their work and always acted busy / the work is too hard for anyone but me / it would take me longer to teach you than to just do it. Eventually you’d learn they were taking a week to do something that should take 30m because they didn’t know the basics of excel. They also tend to start rumors and gossip to undermine younger attractive females while ‘mothering’ the younger guys in the office. They also seek validation constantly. Note - these are totally generalizations. If i worked with 30 people in that age range, 25 of them would be great. It’s just that the 5 PITA’s employees all had such similar behavioral patterns.

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I’m an equal opportunity introvert. I hate working with people in general

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I don’t care who I work with as long as they are competent. I’ve worked with a lot of dumb assholes in my career (men and women). I can deal with assholes but not dumb assholes.

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I divide my officers into four classes as follows: the clever, the industrious, the lazy, and the stupid. Each officer always possesses two of these qualities. Those who are clever and industrious I appoint to the General Staff. Use can under certain circumstances be made of those who are stupid and lazy. The man who is clever and lazy qualifies for the highest leadership posts. He has the requisite and the mental clarity for difficult decisions. But whoever is stupid and industrious must be got rid of, for he is too dangerous. Kurt von Hammerstein-Equord 1878–1943 German general

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Woman here who honestly doesn’t like working with women by and large. Except for our women we have here at Accenture. Territorial and catty ladies have no place here and we really enforce it. Otherwise give me my 55+ year old men and we will get the job done with endless dad jokes.

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Omg, someone reporting my "yo momma" dad joke on a micro thread about dad jokes. To add to this conversation so the reporter looks like a jerk when they report me again: children should be nourished, adults should have bodily autonomy, and we should be good to the earth. There, report me now. 😊 But seriously, if a yo momma joke is found offensive, you are literally on the absolutely wrong planet.

As a gay male: I prefer working with women… i worked with a bunch of men that only talked about sports and I wanted to die

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Gender isn’t the issue with me. It can be difficult working with different personalities. Once you learn how to manage/deal with different personalities, it’s not so difficult.

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I am the only woman in my team and I feel like it’s the best team I have ever worked in. My boss treats everyone with respect and that attitude trickles down to everyone in the team. I feel heard within the team and that motivates me to do more. It has also made me start thinking it may be more of a personality thing than gender thing.

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OMG C1 I laughed out loud on a airplane right now. You so nailed it! Best FB post of the week by far.

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I prefer to work with women. I prefer their temperament, more collaborative and organized work style, and drive to have a better WLB generally over men.

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You don’t know my former boss. She was the worst! Not organized, not collaborative, had an attitude and was incompetent. - My next boss at a new company was a woman too and she was awesome. So… there you go. I’m a woman myself and work in tech. Most of my coworkers are male engineers. Love working with most of them.

I am a man and I like working with women in fact both my manager and 80% of my team are women. Nice change from my last position which was the opposite.

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I’m a male and honestly I’ve had better experiences working with women than men. I prefer having a female boss / coworker. My male coworkers and directors are usually disorganized jerks

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The last team I built was diverse... 30% non binary, 10% men, 60% women. Everyone learned from each other. People helped train each other and we did marketing for several big prestige brands. So. Short answer is I rarely have trouble working with different people unless they're assholes.

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I will work with anyone who doesn't have a 'tude.

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It has less to do with gender than the type of workplace. Working in environments where the jobs attract the alpha type male I generally work better with my female coworkers. In other environments I get along with everyone. For me it has less to do with gender (or however you choose to identify) and more with personality. I want to work with the best people. Pointe Finale.

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misanthropic world view. I hate most people. I can fake it, but for the most part keep the money coming and you’ll get good work.

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Can't we automate everything. Would be ideal to work alone.

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Automation is another term to say 'getting rid of you/all' in general terms. So the thought is good but it comes with a huge cost. 🙂

Like everyone else said, I’ve worked with assholes of all genders, but the WAY that they tend to be assholes is different. If you want something else unique to genders, I had a director at a prior company get away with a lot of bad behavior because she would loudly cry misogyny whenever anyone tried to disagree with an idea of hers or correct her toxic management style. It was kind of a clown show there though. I’m not proud of how I handled it but she started referring to me as a kid and using what I can only describe as “mom voice” to try and boss me around (she was A director not MY director) and at a certain point I started telling her that just because she’s old enough to be my mom doesn’t make her my mom. HR came and talked to me and I told them about her blatant ageism and lack of professionalism towards me. As a result basically nothing happened to either of us. I eventually moved on. If I had it to do over again I would just roll my eyes, but 23 year old me was a hot head and that environment lacked all semblance of professionalism or even competence. It was IT at a small college.

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I dislike working with assholes. Unfortunately, they come in all genders.

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I’m a female and don’t have more or less problem working with either gender.

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