General etiquette question - if you are pregnant then when do you tell your employer? My husband says not to tell till 6-7 months while I think I should around 3rd month. Ladies - what are your thoughts?

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I’m planning on telling around 18-20 weeks.

Just told today! 22 weeks

My partner was trying to send me on a traveling project so I told early (8 weeks).. best decision b/c I couldn’t imagine being on flights week to week.. away from my husband at an anxious time.

I agree with your husband for the most part unless you are on a project that requires travel or long hours in which case you can just say- for medical reasons I can’t travel or work long hours. You don’t have to specify what the medical reasons are by law except to HR. So unless it will be detrimental to the project you are on I personally don’t see why they need to know so early.

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