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Genuine Q because I want to learn: why do pronouns clarification written in three (eg she/her/hers) instead of just one (she) that implies everything else? Does anyone ever go with “she/his/theirs”?

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I’m guessing it’s for people that use they/them/theirs — people get the conjugation for she and he, but may struggle with they 🤷‍♀️

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Nailed it. It’s for consistency.

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The pronoun thing is just silly and self absorbed. I don’t see how dictating how you will refer to me when I’m not around will help other people feel more engaged. Seems to be more about virtue signaling than anything else.

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Oh.... into my veins!!!

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Good question. Now I’m curious too! Is it for the cases where people are using pronouns that aren’t known? Like “Zhe” - I’ve seen that?

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Possibly. Using the standard 3 for everything makes sense to accommodate this scenario.

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It is for consistency. A non-binary person 99% of the time needs to educate others that their pronouns are they/them/theirs, so she/her/hers (for cis or trans women) and he/him/his (for cis or trans men) is consistent. Combinations of pronouns is not a thing. My gender expression doesn’t change depending on the grammatical context in which you are referring to me.

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Lot of useless answers here so far. OP, I’ve never seen a counterintuitive pronoun set like you describe. I think it’s just style? Also, if you just put (she) in parentheses, it looks a little odd, but (she/her) is obvious you’re talking about pronouns.

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I also wonder this!!! ...and have no answer, sorry. The grammar issue of conjugation MAYBE, but most people get that wrong even when it had nothing to do with using correct pronouns.

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Don’t know how to phrase this question on google

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Ok now I get it. I can’t believe that people still have to be reminded what the pronouns pairs are (she/her/hers, he/him/his, they/them/theirs) but I’ll take this explanation. Thanks all for chiming in!!

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