Genuinely want advice - in Seattle just for covid (likely until next spring at least), and been casually dating a guy for like 2 months. We’re both ‘cute’ towards each other (everything from cuddling to real compliments on personality/attractiveness). He was scrolling through his phone and I saw Tinder still downloaded (but we’re unmatched on my Tinder). We haven’t had the ‘exclusive’ talk so i don’t fully expect him to be, but would like clarity on if he is seeing anyone else. Should I ask?

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Yes, especially because of COVID. If he's cuddling someone else, it's a risk you should know about.

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Alternatively, I think you could frame it by asking if he wants to be exclusive? And if not, discuss any boundaries you want. Not sure he owes you any information on the past, so helpful to discuss the future

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BCG2 for the win!

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Thank you all for the advice! In case anyone was wondering, ended up talking about it and he said he didn’t know how I felt about the situation since we never discussed. He was too nervous to bring it up, but wanted to have a relationship. Today we agreed to be exclusive/bf’s ! :)

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Yes I wouldn’t assume exclusive unless it’s mutually agreed upon, and possibly not even then.

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Yes sounds like time to DTR

You are not entitled to any information on if he is seeing anyone else until you both agree to become exclusive. Even then, you are not entitled to info from the pre-exclusive timeframe. If you want to be exclusive, have that conversation.

Using covid risk is one way to get info, but then what? If he says he is seeing someone else, then what? Will you be hurt? If he is not, will you be happy? If you don't care either way, then don't ask. It sounds like you're going to be hurt or concerned or disappointed if he is seeing others. In that case, cut to the chase and ask for exclusivity.

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