Getting married in a few weeks. Do any happily married fishes have advice for newly weds?

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Fair point

Try to put your partner's needs before your own, but take good care of yourself!

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Talk about it

0-1 on happy marriages, I can tell you what not to do.

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Don’t rush into a marriage or a relationship because you think it’s what you should do or it’s what all your friends are doing.

Make sure you are in love with them and not the idea of them/the relationship.

Don’t cheat on your spouse, I didn’t, she did.

Make sure you communicate your needs, feelings etc. to each other before it gets the to the point of cheating.

Understand that you will both change over time some for the better some for the worse but talk about issues and things as they come up.

Don’t box up feelings and emotions talk about them.

If they bring up an issue or want to talk about something listen to what they say, don’t get defensive. Be able to admit when you’re wrong but also don’t let yourself always be the bad guy if you’re not in the wrong.

When you bring up issues don’t attack them explain how you feel and why you feel that way. I’ve found that most big fights are the result of one person attacking and the other getting defensive.

You don’t have to be attached at the hip but you should also make time for each other.

Regarding money, I’d keep finances separate, it doesn’t matter who makes more or who contributes more. You pay some bills and she pays some bills or however you split it but as long as bills are paid money doesn’t matter. If you want to save make a joint savings account you both contribute to.

At the end of the day sometimes things don’t work. You can fight like hell to make a marriage last but it only works if you both fight like hell and even then sometimes it’s better to sort ways and look for happiness elsewhere. But if you communicate and make and honest effort to fix problems when they’re small they won’t grown into big marriage ending problems.

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Remember their love language and make sure to fulfill those needs regularly.

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Don’t go to bed angry. If there is any tension, discuss before bed and start the new day fresh

Congratulations! Wishing you the best in this new endeavor!

Don’t stop dating and make out with each other

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