Getting reaaal tired of pressure from family to get married and have kids when I have enough to worry about at work. I feel like in 2022 we shouldn't have to deal with this. crap. I don't get a party for getting a promotion but when someone in the family has their 5th kid it's all anyone can talk about.

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Throw yourself a promotion party! I wish someone had told me in my early 20s that house, kids, marriage, etc are not the only milestones to reach or celebrate. It's a tough tide to turn but keep swimming.

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So there is hope : )

This could sound controversial but I just can’t view having a 5th child as an accomplishment unless it’s also tied to the growing financial stability to support more children, i.e. career promotions over the years.

As in, income plays a big role in whether it’s a “Wow, they’ve achieved so much and is able to support a 5th child! Good for them!” rather than a “Wow, they’re having their 5th child? That’s going to be tough..”

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Yeah it's kind of irresponsible otherwise

It sucks to get pressure from your family about this stuff but as I've gotten I understand it more. You can only derive so much satisfaction from your job, for most people their family plays a much bigger role in their life satisfaction and most people have an optimal window in which they can get married and start having kids. Most people won't care about being remembered for their corporate job.

Same here.

Sheesh, sorry to hear that! I'm in the same boat

I know how hard family pressure is mental. I also experienced such a situation. If you prove yourself and speak rationally, maybe they can understand you. Or you can get a 1+1 flat by working in an extra place.

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