GF and I are having major issues stemming around my family not liking her. Got into a major fight Friday and haven't spoken since. She said she's having doubts and questioning the whole relationship. Today's our one year...what can I possibly say. Don't know what she's expecting

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She's expecting you to help her navigate this dynamic and what it means for your long term relationship. In laws can be a spouses greatest foe especially if you have kids or live nearby. She wants to know where you'll fall in those disputes and how important it is for you personally that your family likes her. Family can make or break a relationship.

Talk to her about it.

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Try to put things aside and enjoy the day. Special occasions shouldnā€™t be ruined. After, talk to her about couples counseling. They need to be in the right mood to agree so letā€™s her know itā€™s you both against a problem, not you both against each other.

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A) You probably need to talk to your family about their attitude
B) you need to take her side and be her advocate with your family
C) talk to her and tell her you will do B.

If you don't do these 3 things, your relationship will not work.

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If there are concerns, it sounds as if there is/are more constructive (and 1:1) ways to do that with OP. I'm not saying navigating that discussion will be easy. In my experience you can out right tell your children someone isn't right for them, but THEY have to see it for themselves. This means you sometimes (if not most of the time) have to be gentle, understanding, and not speak of the other person directly. When our son was in a toxic relationship, we didn't focus on the person (it doesn't matter who it is) but how a significant other should treat you and make you feel. I.e. better about yourself, more confident, etc. (and vice versa). If your SO is tearing you down as a person, you should think about moving on.

ā€œWhat can I do to make it better?ā€ , Iā€™ve been thereā€¦I get it and I wished I had his supportā€¦

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So sorry to hear this šŸ˜• Why does your family not like her?

They don't think she's mature and not to their standards. My parents are very conservative older generation thinking

How does your family treat her when sheā€™s around?

^^^ This is where Iā€™m at. I feel like every time something happens with family I have to choose

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